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are the tranquilizer (benzos)  medications really supposed to calm the part of the brain down that has become overactive because of the attack trauma? assuming the environmental stimulus that caused the attack (lets say lousy relative that moved away ) isnt around any more do these medicaions like xanax or ativan calm that overactive area ? so the brain isnt on "high alert " .  i get anxiety attacks similar to panic attacks .they done come out of the blue. of course if your constantly bombarded with anxiety stimulus you will keep taking the pills unless you adapt to the constant annoyance. or something changes. but for a one time anxiety event is that how a person recovers after taking meds for a few months ? i know some are on for years but that may be genetic or biological.im not talking about that kind of case.

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They can definitely be used to give the brain a "rest" for a while, after a short-term situation.  In fact, that’s what the majority of the medical community wants them to be used for.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – are the tranquilizer (benzos)  medications really supposed to calm the part of the brain down that has become overactive because of the attack trauma? assuming the environmental stimulus that caused the attack (lets say lousy relative that moved away ) isnt around any more do these medicaions like xanax or ativan calm that overactive area ? so the brain isnt on "high alert " .  i get anxiety attacks similar to panic attacks .they done come out of the blue. of course if your constantly bombarded with anxiety stimulus you will keep taking the pills unless you adapt to the constant annoyance. or something changes. but for a one time anxiety event is that how a person recovers after taking meds for a few months ? i know some are on for years but that may be genetic or biological.im not talking about that kind of case.

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THAT’S INSANE.

You will die in the pit of hell… Love and light. Neo

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HOWEDY neo,

message THAT’S INSANE. You will die in the pit of hell… Love and light. Neo

You mean for THIS?:

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – inmessage It’s just a hunch, but this really isn’t the first time your dog has acted spooky around kids (especially loud ones), is it? She admitted the dog had been like this since she acquired him at 7 weeks of age. IMO, you need professional help.  You admit that your dog has always been a "nervous beast," and she’s probably never going to get any better if YOU continue to do the same old things. And things may even get a lot worse. IMO, there’s probably something that YOU are doing here, i.e., some way that YOU are reacting, behaving, etc., that’s contributing to your dog’s skittishness and fear.

COULD BE THAT JERKING AND CHOKING ON HER PRONGED SPIKED PINCH CHOKE COLLAR CRATING AND SPRAYING AVERSIVES IN HER FACE when the neighbor’s kids visited… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Not necessarily.  When a dog starts out fearful as a pup, and continued attempts at socialization don’t  significantly remedy the problem, its not at all likely that the owner is doing something wrong.  Rather its very likely the dog’s temperament is at fault. Yes, there are ways to desensitize a dog to situations like you’re describing, but it’s also very easy to make matters worse (which is what you are probably doing already), too, if you don’t do them correctly. Yes and sometimes forced socialization with no results will make matters worse.  There are some dogs in this world that should be given the freedom to not go around people or places with loud noises. If the dog proves to be unresponsive to exposure of such things then IMO its more kind to just allow the dog to be a hermit.  Not doing so continues to place the dog in situations where it becomes overly anxious. Get some help, Pam.  And keep your dog out of the park and away from rowdy, noisy kids in the interim. Otherwise it’ll be that much harder for you to eventually deal with the situation effectively. By help I’d like to clarify that most trainers aren’t what’s needed here. Rather a behaviorist would be more effective. — Tara

 THAT’S INSANE. YOU MURDERED YOUR OWN DEAD DOG Summer FOR THE SAME REASON. That wasn’t NUTHIN, neo. TRY THIS:   "Tending To Agree With The Positive Reinforcement Method"?       HOWEDY People,         Hello Tara,         m…         I tend to agree with the positive reinforcement         method.         Oh, that’s nice. I tend to think people who tend to         agree with positive reinforcement methods tend to be         pulling our chains… That’s what I tend to think,         based on my experience working with people who tend to         agree with positive reinforcement who TEND TO         hurt their dogs when their tendencies to use positive         methods are outweighed by their tendencies to run out         of information or intellect and TEND to get frustrated         and TEND NOT to do the things they TEND TO believe are         right, when they TEND to be frustrated, or TEND to be         at a loss for INTELLECT, and TEND TO resort to         violence because they TEND to be shy on BRAINS… I         TEND TO view those folks as hypocrites, that’s what I         TEND to do because I just happen to TEND to be HONEST,         IMO, shock collars should be used only after normal         obedience training methods have failed.         If your NORMAL obedience training TENDED to properly         train dogs, there would be a TENDENCY to have well         trained dogs. But that’s not the case, because NORMAL         obedience training TENDS to provoke, intimidate, and         confound your dog and inhibit his ability to think         and learn to want to work and think and learn… SEE?         That’s what I TEND to think about NORMAL obedience         training which TENDS to FAIL because it TENDS to         resort to VIOLENCE instead of TENDING TOWARDS        THE MOST EFFECTIVE SCIENTIFIC METHODS AVAILABLE.         It just bothers me to imagine shocking my dog, even         at a very low frequency.         It bothers me less to think of shocking the dog than         thinking about what punishment and confrontation can         do to a dog’s temperament. That’s what I tend to think         based on my thirty eight years professional experience         training dogs.         I will definitely admit that there are many dogs who         either can’t or won’t benefit from training without         such things as e-collars.         Is that based on your thirty eight years of experience         specializing in temperament and behavior problems and         protection training in giant breed dogs? Or is that         based on your TENDENCY to believe incompetent dog         abusing Thugs who tell you they TEND to get excellent         results from HURTING dogs to train them because they         TEND NOT TO be intelligent enough to outwit the         cunning of the domestic puppy dog???         OR IS IT BASED ON YOUR TENDENCY TO MURDER         YOUR OWN DEAD DOG Summer?         I just hope its a last-resort, not a first.         And I just hope you figure out why your pals here who         hurt dogs to train them TEND to claim they have me in         their killfiles, because they TEND NOT TO be able to         answer my questions in good conscience…That’s what         they TEND to do around here because our lying dog         abusing Thugs TEND to be INCOMPETENT, IMMORAL,         UNETHICAL, UNPRINCIPLED, DOG ABUSING COWARDS.         Like yourself.         That’s what I tend to think.        Your pal, Jerry "The PHONY," Howe. j;~}        The Amazing Puppy Wizard. <{) ; ~  )           NC Boxer Rescue Abuse         HOWEDY People         Here’s WON of HOWER MENTAL CASES         hurtin dogs and lying abHOWET it again.         "I’m shocked that I shocked"         Due to someone reprimanding Jar-Jar & the word         "rescue" in the post, I decided to read down and see         what he was spewing now. I was able to learn that         besides choking, pinching, crating, abusing and         murdering my dog, I also shocked her. I must be         suffering from amnesia.         Can someone point me to a post where I said         I shocked my dog, or any dog, or that I even         know *how* to use an e-collar….assuming I had one         which must have been stolen at the same time I lost         my memory.         One would think Jerry would be happy with the         "murder" part and all my other training sins but         evidently not.         —         Tara         HOWEDY tara o.,         You didn’t HURT INTIMIDATE and MURFDER          your own DEAD DOG Summer:         Labs are a breed that are normally trained for         field work with ear pinches, e-collars and other         forms of physical interaction without making them         fearful or aggressive.         I think its pertinent to mention that I’ve never had         any dogs who exhibited signs of aggression or were in         any way, shape, or form resistent to whatever         "training" I did with them.         I would not feel comfortable relying on my past         experience or a book to train a dog to stop biting,         snapping or growling.         —         Tara O.         I cant seem to understand why people believe prong         collars are cruel and inhumane. They do nothing more         than pinch, getting the attention of the animal.         Choke collars, on the other hand, do permanent         damage. They bruise the esophagus.         Shock collars will eventually destroy nerve endings,         much the same as electric fencing.         Joshua, you have just reopened a can of worms         that can quickly cause infestation here lol         —         Tara O.         People are tired of being abused and insulted simply         for saying they use a prong collar, or a choke         collar, or an e-collar, or a crate, etc. If you want         to LEARN more about dog training and dog behavior,         then listen to what they have to say, too.         "I’ve never not listened to what people say here.         I use a crate, am about to begin with a choke collar,         I’m not the bad guy here." tara o.

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HOWEDY leah,

The first incident was a total surprise to both of us.

But it was ENTIRELY PREDICTABLE. And it REMAINS CONSISTENT. AND REPEATABLE. THAT MEANS you can EXXXTINGUISH or CUE the behavior AS YOU PREFER, NEARLY INSTANTLY, if you know HOWE. BUT YOU DON’T, on accHOWENT of you’re LYING DOG ABUSING FRAUDS and ACTIVE LONG TERM INCURABLE MENTAL CASES, JUST JUDGING BY YOUR OWN POSTED CASE HISTORYS.     BWEEEEEEEEEAAAAAHAHAHAHA!!! I’d heard the kids playing, but I had no idea as to how close they actually were. As it turned out a couple of the kids were zooming past the exit of the path we were on just as we were  coming out. The second incident I was aware that they were there and took steps to make sure that we didn’t get too close (more within her comfort zone).

JUST LIKE HOWE leah had THE SAME PROBLEM with her dog’s FEAR of the GARBAGE TRUCK. REMEMBER leah? AND let’s don’t FORGET that you took your own dog to a BEHAVIORIST a couple months ago for her FEAR AGGRESSION on leash of other dogs and YOU SEZ IT DIDN’T WORK. REMEMBER leah? That’s the key, right there.

INDEEDY! THAT’S HOWE COME The Amazing Puppy Wizard GOES "BWEEEAAAAAAHAHAHAAA!!!!" REMEMBER NHOWE, you SIMPLETON? If humanly possible, avoid exposure that is not in her comfort zone while you’re working with her.

YOU MEAN AVOID THE PROBLEM. BWEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAHAHAHHAHAAA!!! I will agree with both Jack

There AIN’T NO "jack" leah. Your PAL jack is tommy sorenson aka joey finnochiario aka lyingdogDUMMY aka DOGMAN. HE’S A DOG ABUSING MENTALLY ILL COWARD. Like yourself. and Tara

And tara o. aka tee, who MURDERED HER OWN DEAD DOG Summer for FEAR AGGRESSION of SMALL CHILDREN despite that she was RAISED with them IN THE HOWES of her MURDERING DOG ABUSING MENTAL CASE who’s daughter is takin ANTI PSYCHOTIC MEDICATIONS in first grade. REMEMBER NHOWE leah you doGgamenedMENTALCASE?     BWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAHAHHAHAAA!!!  in that you’re best off seeing a behaviorist  who can help work with her in person.

       YOU MEAN LIKE HOWE SHE DONE ALREADY, leah?  And I will disagree with Jack.

IMAGINE?   Medication may help this dog.

BWEEEEEEEEEAAAAHAHAHAHHAAA!!! But only an in-person diagnostic work-up can determine that.

LIKE SHE’S ALREADY DONE WITH NO SUCCESS? Family Dog Trainer

That so? LOOKS like you got FIRED from CANINE ACTION DOG TRAININ, eh leah? MIGHT that be on accHOWENT of you’re a DOG ABUSING FRAUD? "It’s A Dog’s Life"

Here’s you HURTING INTIMIDATING and MURDERING DOGS: Leah        Effexor for chronic depression, in denial                 about being mentally ill. Has taken                 several other mentally ill medications                 before settling on effexor for her chronic                 mental problems. Recenly changed to                 another ANTI PSYCHOTIC prescription. "I don’t think Jerry intentionally lies.  I think he twists things around in his own mind until he actually believes what he’s saying."         Jerry is the only poster here who gives dangerous         advice. Google for spike and squirt.  And let’s not         forget the times he’s told posters whose dogs have         medical problems that his halfwits-end program could         cure them.         PetsMart Pet Trainer         My Kids, My Students, My Life "It was kind of funny, in an absurd way.  The rabbit was completely still, eyes open and glazed, dried blood in his ears and mouth, with his back legs stiffening quickly. It was her pet rabbit, not a wild bunny, so that made it much harder for her. And he was killed by bichons. Her dogs had torn it apart.  My one student who had shown up (another weird thing about the night) and I had to continuously check for heart and bowel sounds for her, until she could accept that the rabbit was dead. (The rigor mortis in his back legs she attributed to "pain"). Full moon. Canine Action Dog Trainer http://www.canineaction.com  Then she mentioned the names of her dogs,  and I immediately remembered them.

YOUR STUDENT, leah. Like that RECENT GRADUATE STUDENT Rottie who’d been in your SOCIALIZATION classes since IT was ten weeks old who RECENTLY MURDERED a little innocent DEAD DOG at the park. I will always remember the dogs.

Yeah. You and ed w of PET LOSS dot COIN. REMEBER THIS WON, leah?: Really Bad Day HOWEDY leah,

The mom of a graduate student

BWEEEEEHAHAHAHAHHAHAAA!!! You’re no dog trainer, you’re a FRAUD. interrupted my class,

Class??? You don’t have trainin classes you teach people to throw treats to dogs for mindless unthinking behaviors and tell folks to jerk and choke and shock dogs when bribing and avoiding behaviors doesn’t work an then you try to get HOWET callin THAT, trainin.  in a state of shock,

AnyWON who’d trust you to train them to handle their dog was in a state of shock or takin anti psychotic meds before they started.  to tell me that her rottie had killed a little  dog at a dog park today.

Tough break. R.I.P., dog. She wanted to know if she had to put him to sleep.

That’s typical of a dog abusing coward, ain’t it. Mack is the quintessential dog-park dog.

You mean he likes to PLAY. I’ve seen him play, with all sizes of dogs.

Yeah. A dog is a dog.   He’s gentle, friendly, non-dominant, non-aggressive, and has been going to the park weekly since he was a puppy.

And he’s been jerked and choked and scolded and punished and bribed since you began messin with him. I was in too much of a state of shock myself

You mean, you was NORMAL. to get details (like which park and what exactly happened),

Yeah. That’ll be REAL important for trHOWEbleshootin this behavior problem. Won’t it, leah.  but she said he chased him,

And MOM couldn’t call him off cause IT won’t come when called nor will IT do anything else unless MOM is danglin a cookie in front of him. picked him up and shook him,

Typical Rottie behavior, ain’t it. then grabbed his brother.

SHOWENDS like he was just HAVIN FUN, like when you jerk and choked him to train him.  The other one survived.

Got LUCKY, eh leah? Man.  I tell my students in every class that dogs are not little people in fur suits.

But that’s just the begining. Then you teach them to HURT and INTIMIDATE their dogs when they can’t BRIBE and AVOID their behavior problems.  They are animals.

They’re able to HOWEtwit you and your ilk, leah. They have no morals,

Perhaps that’s just allelomimetic behavior? and don’t know right from wrong

AMAZING?  Chalk THAT up to allelomimetic behavior, for SHORE. – only safe from not safe.

RIGHT. That’s HOWE COME dogs ATTACK, cause they’re AFRAID of SUMPTHIN.  But then prey drive

You mean, when the dinner bell rings? Prey drive ain’t got NUTHIN to do with FEAR. Dogs chase PREY to EAT, not have FUN. Dogs chase THINGS on accHOWENT of the visual oral reflex, not PREY drive. Unless they’re chasin a bunny their PREY is in their food dish. rears its ugly head and really shoves the message home.

The MESSAGE is, you’ve HURT the dog to force control over IT and THAT’S HOWE COME IT was AFRAID and ATTACKED, not on accHOWENT of some IDIOCY abHOWET PREY drive. Because I’d bet that’s what happened.

You’re a MENTAL CASE a LIAR and a dog abuser.   This little white fuzzy guy whizzed by Mack, and his prey drive kicked in.

No. He was afraid he was gonna GET HURT for CHASIN IT, so he ATTACKED and MURDERED IT on accHOWENT of he knew he’d GET HURT for CHASIN IT. Plain and simple.

Plain an simple indeed.  Not a bad dog,

Right. Dogs can’t know from BAD behavior. Dogs only respond in PREDICTABLE NORMAL NATURAL INNATE INSTINCTIVE REFLEXIVE ways to situations and circumstances of their environments which we create for them. not a dangerous dog.

Not till NHOWE. EVERY DOG IS DANGERHOWES.  Just a dog.  *Any* dog.

Is a dog and is dangerHOWES. THAT’S HOWE COME The Amazing Puppy Wizard doesn’t HURT and INTIMIDATE and BRIBE them an try to get HOWET callin THAT, trainin. I’m beginning to think that dog parks should be divided by size.

BWEEEEAAHAHAHAHAHHAAA!!!  Even in my class, if I have two puppies of vastly different sizes, I’m inches away from them while they’re playing.

To INTIMIDATE and FORCE control when necessary. THAT’S HOWE COME you can’t TRAIN a dog to BE TRUSTWORTHY. Like your own dogs…   I’m not afraid of mouths, I’m afraid of feet – I do paw patrol.

You’re a IDIOT.  Especially if the big dog is a boxer. :}

BWEEEHAHAHAHAHHAAAA!!! In the park, nobody’s ever close enough to monitor well enough.

Perhaps they should be required to wear shock collars? At least if two similar-sized dogs go at it, one’s probably not going to kill each other with a mere shake.

Or put a eye HOWET.  But it’s so *easy* for a big dog to kill a little dog.

No, that takes a bit of EXXXPERTISE, like what the owner PAID YOU FOR. What do you guys think?

You’re INSANE and you’re a FRAUD.   I’m surprised this doesn’t happen more often.

It will, as you get MOORE EXXXPERIENCE. PetsMart Pet Trainer

You’re no trainer, you’re a FRAUD. My Kids, My Students, My Life:

Your own dogs bit you five times and destroyed your HOWES and ruined your marriage. You MURDERED your own DEAD DOG Buck cause you was TOO STUPID to put him on a salt restricted diet for his congestive heart failure and fed him pizza and french fries and then MURDERED HIM cause you was TOO LAZY to walk him every two HOWERS in the cold central Florida weather. R.I.P. Dog.                         WON LAST GIFT: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Ann

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HOWEDY melanie, If you were satisfied with your first behaviorist visit

Like HOWE you was when you first took your own FEAR AGGRESSIVE MAN SHY dog Solo to UofPA behaviorist dra. overall? IF YOU REMEMBER CORRECTLY, you was TOO EMBARRASSED to DIS-CUSS what you was TAUGHT by your BEHAVIORIST. AND IF YOU REMEMBER CORRECTLY you STILL GOT THE SAME PROBLEMS you STARTED WITH three years ago. REMEMBER melanie? LOOK AT YOUR OWN MISERABLE DISMAL FAILURE! IOW, YOU GOT RIPPED OFF JUST LIKE HOWE pat GOT RIPPED OFF by her UNIVERSITY TRAINED BEHAVIORIST. BWEEEEEEAAAHAHAHHHAHAAA!!!! BWEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAHAHAHHAHAA!!! BWEEEEEEEEEEAAAAHAHAHAHHAAAAAAA!!! and found that following his or her recommendations helped your dog,

BWEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAHAHAHHAHAA!!! "I’ve been working on a fear aggression issue with my 1-year-old German shepherd dog (Lexi) for quite some time now. I’ve been doing real well with her after ruling out all medical reasons and then seeing an animal behavioral specialist. Following her instructions of putting Lexi on the NILIF program, desensitizing and redirection she’s improved 90%" THAT MEANS DISMAL FAILURE, not 10% SUCCESS. I suggest that you contact the same behaviorist

Your own FEAR AGGRESSIVE dog Solo has been on ANTI PSYCHOTIC MEDICATION for THREE YEARS with NO SUCCESS. REMEMBER melanie?  with the questions you’ve asked here.

BWEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHHAHAHAA!!!  Most good behaviorists would want to know  what was going on with their patients anyway.

You mean anyHOWE. BWEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHAHHAAA!!! YOUR BEHAVIORISTS ARE FRAUDS JUST JUDGING BY YOUR OWN POSTED CASE HISTORIES. But then, you can’t EXXXPECT a BEHAVIORIST to PREVENT a DOG ABUSER from ABUSING DOGS. LIKE THIS: "Well, Jack Did Hit My Dog. Actually I’d Call It A Sharp Tap Of The Crook To The Nose. I Know Jack Wouldn’t HaveDone It If He Thought Solo Couldn’t Take It. I Still Crate Him Because Otherwise I Fear He Might Eat My Cat," melanie. You think allowing a "FEAR AGGRESSIVE MAN SHY" dog to be BEATEN by a strange male trainer is INTELLIGENT BEHAVIOR for a DOG LOVER?   Melanie Lee Chang                        |  Form ever follows function.   Departments of Anthropology and Biology  |   University of Pennsylvania               |  – Louis Sullivan

I hope I’m not being a pest,(I have at least one question a week) but I’ve never owned a lab before and I think my 8month old lab/shepherd has severe problems. This newsgroup made me realize she is normal. Her major problem is biting but I’m told labs and shepherds are both bad for that as puppies. Tonight I went to answer the phone and she took my arm and wouldn’t let go. I had to hang up as my arm still has puncture wounds. Has anyone had this problem? I think she gets upset that all my attention is not on her anymore.  (I do spend a lot of time with her and everyone tells me that I spoil her too much) She also bites when she needs to go outside. Any suggestions? BWEEEEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHAHAHHAAA!!! Monday, December 06, 2004 10:15 PM

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My 5 month old puppy was doing very well for a bit with his housebreaking and now he seems to have forgotten everything he ever learned. We will both not survive if we have to start over.  What can I do as a quick refresher? I haven’t changed the routine at all, just take him out whenever he’s at the  door or every  hour even if he hasn’t been at the door. He gets treats when he comes in (after going potty only).  What can I do?  HELP!  Thanks!

  "Tending To Agree With The Positive Reinforcement Method?"       HOWEDY People,         Hello Tara,         m…         I tend to agree with the positive reinforcement         method.         Oh, that’s nice. I tend to think people who tend to         agree with positive reinforcement methods tend to be         pulling our chains… That’s what I tend to think,         based on my experience working with people who tend to         agree with positive reinforcement who TEND TO         hurt their dogs when their tendencies to use positive         methods are outweighed by their tendencies to run out         of information or intellect and TEND to get frustrated         and TEND NOT to do the things they TEND TO believe are         right, when they TEND to be frustrated, or TEND to be         at a loss for INTELLECT, and TEND TO resort to         violence because they TEND to be shy on BRAINS… I         TEND TO view those folks as hypocrites, that’s what I         TEND to do because I just happen to TEND to be HONEST,         IMO, shock collars should be used only after normal         obedience training methods have failed.         If your NORMAL obedience training TENDED to properly         train dogs, there would be a TENDENCY to have well         trained dogs. But that’s not the case, becasuse NORMAL         obedience training TENDS to provoke, intimidate, and         confound your dog and inhibit his ability to think         and learn to want to work and think and learn… SEE?         That’s what I TEND to think about NORMAL obedience         training which TENDS to FAIL because it TENDS to         resort to VIOLENCE instead of TENDING TOWARDS        THE MOST EFFECTIVE SCIENTIFIC METHODS AVAILABLE.         It just bothers me to imagine shocking my dog, even         at a very low frequency.         It bothers me less to think of shocking the dog than         thinking about what punishment and confrontation can         do to a dog’s temperament. That’s what I tend to think         based on my thirty eight years professional experience         training dogs.         I will definitely admit that there are many dogs who         either can’t or won’t benefit from training without         such things as e-collars.         Is that based on your thirty eight years of experience         specializing in temperament and behavior problems and         protection training in giant breed dogs? Or is that         based on your TENDANCY to believe incompetent dog         abusing Thugs who tell you they TEND to get excellent         results from HURTING dogs to train them because they         TEND NOT TO be intelligent enough to outwit the         cunning of the domestic puppy dog???         OR IS IT BASED ON YOUR TENDENCY TO MURDER         YOUR OWN DEAD DOG Summer?         I just hope its a last-resort, not a first.         And I just hope you figure out why your pals here who         hurt dogs to train them TEND to claim they have me in         their killfiles, because they TEND NOT TO be able to         answer my questions in good conscience…That’s what         they TEND to do around here because our lying dog         abusing Thugs TEND to be INCOMPETENT, IMMORAL,         UNETHICAL, UNPRINCIPLED, DOG ABUSING COWARDS.         Like yourself.         That’s what I tend to think.        Your pal, Jerry "The PHONY," Howe. j;~}        The Amazing Puppy Wizard. <{) ; ~  )           NC Boxer Rescue Abuse         HOWEDY People         Here’s WON of HOWER MENTAL CASES         hurtin dogs and lying abHOWET it again.         "I’m shocked that I shocked"         Due to someone reprimanding Jar-Jar & the word         "rescue" in the post, I decided to read down and see         what he was spewing now. I was able to learn that         besides choking, pinching, crating, abusing and         murdering my dog, I also shocked her. I must be         suffering from amnesia.         Can someone point me to a post where I said         I shocked my dog, or any dog, or that I even         know *how* to use an e-collar….assuming I had one         which must have been stolen at the same time I lost         my memory.         One would think Jerry would be happy with the         "murder" part and all my other training sins but         evidently not.         —         Tara         HOWEDY tara o.,         You didn’t HURT INTIMIDATE and MURFDER          your own DEAD DOG Summer:         Labs are a breed that are normally trained for         field work with ear pinches, e-collars and other         forms of physical interaction without making them         fearful or aggressive.         I think its pertinent to mention that I’ve never had         any dogs who exhibited signs of aggression or were in         any way, shape, or form resistent to whatever         "training" I did with them.         I would not feel comfortable relying on my past         experience or a book to train a dog to stop biting,         snapping or growling.         —         Tara O.

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HOWEDY tara o. aka tee, You an tommy shouldn’t argue, it makes you both look like lying dog abusing punk thug cowards and active long term incurable mental cases on accHOWENT of you both hurt intimidate and MURDER dogs like your posted cases history of you hurting dogs and lying abHOWET it, below, will show:

message "No reason" huh?  And how do you know that the dog’s

temperament is ‘less – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – than desirable’ versus downright wrong? I don’t see much difference between "less than desirable" and "downright wrong." I do. But more importantly, neither of us has any idea what *this* particular dog’s temperament actually is, so stop pretending that *you* do. I’m not pretending any more than you are. Many of these situations (e.g., gene-based problems) are *not* curable. But they certainly are MANAGEABLE, if the owner knows how to deal with them. And without resorting to drugs. Of course they’re managable, at least much of the time. Which is why I suggested seeking help both here and in my direct reply to her. Then why chew on me!!!??? Sheesh. *You* chewed on me and every one of my posts since then.  Its very convenient of you to now turn it around on me. Why do you always have to get a pound of my flesh in the process, too? Aww, start a fight and cry that you are the one being abused. It’s really starting to piss me off, WTYAA. S’okay by me. Well since there are more than one base to cover it makes sense to address as many as I know how. You’re in no position to help this person (in the way that you seem to be trying to do) without exposing this dog and her owner to RISK. UNNECESSARY risk. Please explain to me what it is I’ve advised that would be risky. Because *my* reply couldn’t possibly have made matters worse! Your assumptions & tone don’t help people to take your advice. Now, how did my post have the potential to make matters worse? You’re trying to get into technique and methodology, with a complete stranger no less, without having a fucking clue as to what might actually be going on here! Again, I’m at a loss to understand what in my original post was risky or bad advice. I’m not pretending to anything.  I happen to have experience with symptons like this dog has and addressed, as generically as possible, what I *know* to be prescribed methods. The dog that you eventually had to euthanize? Is every bit of advice you ever offer anyone regarding fearful dogs going to be based on your experience with that *one* dog? The dog I euthanized was my most extensive experience but there have been foster dogs as well. What exactly is competent? You should ask that about behaviorists, too. But you didn’t. Because *you* specified and applied the adjective, not me. be able to see if this person was doing certain "things" that might be contributing to this dog’s behavior, etc. And if they couldn’t spot anything, or what they spotted wasn’t the problem, then what? The same could be said of a behaviorist! You’re going in circles.

Oh? You mean, like THIS?:   "Tending To Agree With The Positive Reinforcement Method"?       HOWEDY People,         Hello Tara,         m…         I tend to agree with the positive reinforcement         method.         Oh, that’s nice. I tend to think people who tend to         agree with positive reinforcement methods tend to be         pulling our chains… That’s what I tend to think,         based on my experience working with people who tend to         agree with positive reinforcement who TEND TO         hurt their dogs when their tendencies to use positive         methods are outweighed by their tendencies to run out         of information or intellect and TEND to get frustrated         and TEND NOT to do the things they TEND TO believe are         right, when they TEND to be frustrated, or TEND to be         at a loss for INTELLECT, and TEND TO resort to         violence because they TEND to be shy on BRAINS… I         TEND TO view those folks as hypocrites, that’s what I         TEND to do because I just happen to TEND to be HONEST,         IMO, shock collars should be used only after normal         obedience training methods have failed.         If your NORMAL obedience training TENDED to properly         train dogs, there would be a TENDENCY to have well         trained dogs. But that’s not the case, becasuse NORMAL         obedience training TENDS to provoke, intimidate, and         confound your dog and inhibit his ability to think         and learn to want to work and think and learn… SEE?         That’s what I TEND to think about NORMAL obedience         training which TENDS to FAIL because it TENDS to         resort to VIOLENCE instead of TENDING TOWARDS        THE MOST EFFECTIVE SCIENTIFIC METHODS AVAILABLE.         It just bothers me to imagine shocking my dog, even         at a very low frequency.         It bothers me less to think of shocking the dog than         thinking about what punishment and confrontation can         do to a dog’s temperament. That’s what I tend to think         based on my thirty eight years professional experience         training dogs.         I will definitely admit that there are many dogs who         either can’t or won’t benefit from training without         such things as e-collars.         Is that based on your thirty eight years of experience         specializing in temperament and behavior problems and         protection training in giant breed dogs? Or is that         based on your TENDANCY to believe incompetent dog         abusing Thugs who tell you they TEND to get excellent         results from HURTING dogs to train them because they         TEND NOT TO be intelligent enough to outwit the         cunning of the domestic puppy dog???         OR IS IT BASED ON YOUR TENDENCY TO MURDER         YOUR OWN DEAD DOG Summer?         I just hope its a last-resort, not a first.         And I just hope you figure out why your pals here who         hurt dogs to train them TEND to claim they have me in         their killfiles, because they TEND NOT TO be able to         answer my questions in good conscience…That’s what         they TEND to do around here because our lying dog         abusing Thugs TEND to be INCOMPETENT, IMMORAL,         UNETHICAL, UNPRINCIPLED, DOG ABUSING COWARDS.         Like yourself.         That’s what I tend to think.        Your pal, Jerry "The PHONY," Howe. j;~}        The Amazing Puppy Wizard. <{) ; ~  )           NC Boxer Rescue Abuse         HOWEDY People         Here’s WON of HOWER MENTAL CASES         hurtin dogs and lying abHOWET it again.         "I’m shocked that I shocked"         Due to someone reprimanding Jar-Jar & the word         "rescue" in the post, I decided to read down and see         what he was spewing now. I was able to learn that         besides choking, pinching, crating, abusing and         murdering my dog, I also shocked her. I must be         suffering from amnesia.         Can someone point me to a post where I said         I shocked my dog, or any dog, or that I even         know *how* to use an e-collar….assuming I had one         which must have been stolen at the same time I lost         my memory.         One would think Jerry would be happy with the         "murder" part and all my other training sins but         evidently not.         —         Tara         HOWEDY tara o.,         You didn’t HURT INTIMIDATE and MURFDER          your own DEAD DOG Summer:         Labs are a breed that are normally trained for         field work with ear pinches, e-collars and other         forms of physical interaction without making them         fearful or aggressive.         I think its pertinent to mention that I’ve never had         any dogs who exhibited signs of aggression or were in         any way, shape, or form resistent to whatever         "training" I did with them.         I would not feel comfortable relying on my past         experience or a book to train a dog to stop biting,         snapping or growling.         —         Tara O.         I cant seem to understand why people believe prong         collars are cruel and inhumane. They do nothing more         than pinch, getting the attention of the animal.         Choke collars, on the other hand, do permanent         damage. They bruise the esophagus.         Shock collars will eventually destroy nerve endings,         much

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HOWEDY pam,

Yes, continual exposure to desensitize her to it.

That’s idiocy. You got to learn HOWE to pupperly handle your dog pryor to setting her up for addressing a behavior problem. But under controlled conditions.

Yeah. It would HEELP if the dog wasn’t AFRAID of getting CHOKED someMOORE. You can’t just keep surprising her with screaming sledders,

Well you COULD if you knew HOWE to make her FEEL SAFE an S-HOWEND.  you’re going to worsen that fear –

Only if you don’t know HOWE to REASSURE the dog. epecially since it’s happening in different places, which will generalize it.

The dog has been AFRAID since DAY WON. I agree.

Your trainin CAUSED her fears. The first incident was a total surprise,

Every time.  but the next night, I knew the kids were there so I kept as far away from them as possible,

That’s HOWE COME she’s AFRAID. but close enough so that she could still see and hear them.

You should have gone right bye them or joined them. The incident that worried me the most, was the night she heard them while she was in the house. I have no control over the kids outside.

Don’t NEED CON-TROLL. IN FACT, THAT’S HOWE COME your dog is AFRAID, on accHOWENT OF YOU ARE IN CON-TROLL. Your dog don’t TRUST you.  The only control I had (environment wise) in that situation was to close the windows.

You could EXXXTINGUISH her FEAR by PRAISING HER. But you WON’T DO THAT on accHOWENT of YOUR BEHAVIORIST TOLD YOU that would REINFORCE HER FEARS. But WE KNOW THAT’S FALSE based on C-HOWENTLESS CASE HISTORYS to the CONtrary. First of all, exactly what is it that sets her off?

EVERY THING. Is it the screaming or the toboggan or the sound of the toboggan, or the whole package?

That’s IRRELEVENT.  (For example, does she always react to the sound of children playing, or is it just specifically when they’re on a toboggan?)

Like when leah’s dog WENT NUTS over the garbage truck. NUTHIN she did WORKED. I believe it’s the whole package.

That’s IDIOCY. The only thing you gotta deal with is her TRUST and the dog won’t BE AFRAID noMOORE. She’s used to seeing and hearing children playing although she’s not completely comfortable with it (to the point where she would want to join in the fun). She would just walk by with me without any need to hurry to get past. We have a trailer at a campground and in the summer there are always kids running around. At the beginning of the season she was very nervous, but by the end of the season she was able to lay on the lawn and watch them ride by on their bikes or run around playing without displaying any adverse reaction on her part.

AMAZING. What was different between the first incident and the second?  How do you react when she gets frightened?  How quickly does she get over it?

You could EXXXTINGUISH her FEARS in WON DAY if you knew HOWE. But you don’t on accHOWENT of you don’t WANT to BE NICE to your dog and not punish IT when necessary. The first incident was a total surprise to both of us.

That so? I’d heard the kids playing, but I had no idea as to how close they actually were. As it turned out a couple of the kids were zooming past the exit of the path we were on just as we were coming out. The second incident I was aware that they were there and took steps to make sure that we didn’t get too close (more within her comfort zone).

IOW, you CATERED to her FEARS. The first incident caused her to be not her usual self for about a half an hour after we got home and she had no interest in playing any more. She just wanted to go directly back to the car.

Again, CATERING to her FEARS. The second incident wasn’t nearly as reactive. She was able to relax enough to want to play again within about 5 minutes.

But not near the kids. As to how I react, I ignore her fear

RIGHT. THAT’S HOWE COME SHE PAINICKS. and when I see that she’s nervous in any way, I give her a command.

Which INCREASES anxiHOWESNESS on accHOWENT of HOWE you TRAINED her to her "commands" by EITHER bribing or choking which causes the dog to become anxiHOWES when asked to do a behavior he’s been trained to in a heightened state of anxiHOWESNESS. When she complies,

You mean AFTER she’s DONE what you asked, when she’s NO LONGER THINKING of THAT behavior. You’re praising her NEXT THOUGHT, which is PROBABLY her FEAR. NO WONDER YOUR DOG IS AFRAID.  I shower her with praise for doing as she was asked.

AFTER THE FACT. Sometimes, not always, when someone is walking behind us she gets a bit nervous so I’ll go off to the side of the sidewalk, get her to sit and stay while the person walks by.

AGAIN, CATERING TO HER FEARS. While they are walking by I’ll be telling her what a good girl she is.

IF YOU TOLD HER THAT FIRST SHE WOULDN’T BE AFRAID. She is much more comfortable watching them walk by than having them behind us.

RIGHT. Which is HOWE COME you got to teach her to RELAX with folks walkin behind. Unfortunately, the most important thing is that she is not "surprised" by an incident before she’s ready for it.

BWEEEEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHAHHAHAAAA!!! Like when that RECENT GRADUATE STUDENT Rottie of leah’s RECENTLY MURDERED a little innocent DEAD DOG in the park "when his PRAY DRIVE SUDDENLY KICKED IN". I try to control her enviroment as much as I can,

YEAH.  THAT’S HOWE COME DOGS FEAR THINGS YOU CANNOT CON-TROLL. Like THUNDER or KIDS or MOVEMENT in the car. but sometimes there are surprises.

Life’s FULL of SURPRISES. Like The Amazing Puppy Wizard <{) ; ~  )   Example:

FOR EXXXAMPLE. we were walking along a harbour front where everything was peaceful and serene. All of a sudden a tug boat tooted it’s horn.

IF YOU PRAISED HER SHE’D BE FINE. Lexi was extremely startled by this.

SO YOU IGNORED HER.  I had no control over the situation and had no warning that it was going to happen.

Like thunder.  Or kids. As a general rule, she isn’t startled by loud noises so I was kind of surprised by her reaction although it was a piercing loud burst.

Perhaps you’ve desensitized her to LHOWED noises? Perhaps you can wait on her walks until after dark, when the kids are in bed?

That’s SHEER GENIUS. AIN’T IT. As a matter of fact, all incidents occured after dark.

BWEEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHHAHAAA!!! leah always had to be in by sunset.  I was thinking that maybe this may be a factor in her being more fearful although up to that point she seemed quite comfortable outside at night.

 Yeah. Being MOORE alert at night is NORMAL. BEING AFRAID OF EVERY THING AIN’T. And THAT’S CAUSED BY MISHANDLING or you WOULDN’T BE MAKIN SO MUCH PROGRESS with your UNIVERSITY BEHAVIORIST. REMEMBER? I hope I’m not being a pest,(I have at least one question a week) but I’ve never owned a lab before and I think my 8month old lab/shepherd has severe problems. This newsgroup made me realize she is normal. Her major problem is biting but I’m told labs and shepherds are both bad for that as puppies. Tonight I went to answer the phone and she took my arm and wouldn’t let go. I had to hang up as my arm still has puncture wounds. Has anyone had this problem? I think she gets upset that all my attention is not on her anymore.  (I do spend a lot of time with her and everyone tells me that I spoil her too much) She also bites when she needs to go outside. Any suggestions? BWEEEEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHAHAHHAAA!!! Monday, December 06, 2004 10:15 PM

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Death Producing Ulcers: "Emotional Influences On Health & Behavior" Dr. George Von Hilsheimer         Emotional Influences On Behavior         Illness is directly related to depression and lack of         adjustment, particularly to a new environment (Parens,         McConville & Kaplan, 1966).         A WIDE RANGE of PSYCHOSOMATIC or         CORTICOVISCERAL DIS-EASES was surveyed         by Wittkower (1965) to demonstrate the enormous         importance of emotional factors in general health.         Interview findings of emotional material (recently         experienced hopelessness) pryor to biological         examinations correctly identified 11 out of 19 with         cervical cancer, and 25 of 32 who were cancer free         even though psychological tests failed to discriminate         these groups (Schmale & Iker, 1966)         150 lung cancer patients showed significantly         constricted expression of emotions. The had fewer         childhood behavior problems, and lower neuroticism         score than their cancer free controls. Heavy cigarette         smokers who DO NOT INHALE are more apt to have LUNG         CANCER. They, too, show LOWER neuroticism scores.         Among heavy cigarette smokers poor emotional         expression is as highly related to cancer as urban         residence and is more important than a chronic cough         or an air polluted environment (Kissen, 1966).         A ten year observation of all the women who developed         cancer in an isolated pupulation

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HOWEDY tara o. aka tee, You MURDERED YOUR OWN DEAD DOG Summer FOR THE SAME REASON. REMEMBER? Takin advice from you would be INSANE. WOULDN’T IT. "I’m Shocked That I Shocked" tara o. aka tee, NC Boxer Rescue HOWEDY People Here’s WON of HOWER MENTAL CASES hurtin dogs and lying abHOWET it again. "I’m shocked that I shocked"

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Due to someone reprimanding Jar-Jar & the word "rescue" in the post, I decided to read down and see what he was spewing now.  I was able to learn that besides choking, pinching, crating, abusing and murdering my dog, I also shocked her. I must be suffering from amnesia.  Can someone point me to a post where I said I shocked my dog, or any dog, or that I even know *how* to use an e-collar….assuming I had one which must have been stolen at the same time I lost my memory. One would think Jerry would be happy with the "murder" part and all my other training sins but evidently not. — Tara

HOWEDY tara o., You didn’t hurt and kill Summer. Labs are a breed that are normally trained for field work with ear pinches, e-collars and other forms of physical interaction without making them fearful or aggressive.

I think its pertinent to mention that I’ve never had any dogs who exhibited signs of aggression or were in any way, shape, or form resistent to whatever "training" I did with them. I would not feel comfortable relying on my past experience or a book to train a dog to stop biting, snapping or growling. — Tara O.

I cant seem to understand why people believe prong collars are cruel and inhumane. They do nothing more than pinch, getting the attention of the animal. Choke collars, on the other hand, do permanent damage. They bruise the esophagus. Shock collars will eventually destroy nerve endings, much the same as electric fencing. Get it straight people.

Joshua, you have just reopened a can of worms that can quickly cause infestation here lol — Tara O. People are tired of being abused and insulted simply for saying they use a prong collar, or a choke collar, or an e-collar, or a crate, etc.  If you want to LEARN more about dog training and dog behavior, then listen to what they have to say, too.

"I’ve never not listened to what people say here. I use a crate, am about to begin with a choke collar, I’m not the bad guy here." tara o. ""Twzl, Sligo and Roy Happy Together"" wrote BTW, this is one of the frequent topics on obedience email lists. When people say that they haven’t used corrections, it turns out that they feel that if they do it, it’s not a real correction.

:) That makes sense in a weird sort of way.  I don’t honestly think that its humanly possible to train anyone or anything without correction.  Its human nature to say ‘no’ or to stop a behavior by doing something.  I used a tin can with coins to correct Summer’s bad puppy behaviors and the cold shoulder to correct her other less desirable behaviors.  I have said ‘no’ so many times that I probably sound like a broken record.  Amie can attest to that lol. It seems to me that some people are automatically equating the term correction with punishment.  I guess they can go hand in hand since my tin can wasn’t something Summer liked.  My ignoring her when she’s misbehaving is also something she doesn’t like.  Therefore it can be viewed as punishment?  And that term is 100% negative. Maybe if more people saw it as correction and not the total negative, they’d be less inclined to want to be PP. Don’t know if the way I wrote that made sense, it makes sense in my head but then again the men with the white coats could come a’knockin at any moment. Tara O. Yes I see and understand your point.  There’s no such thing as 100% vigilence 100% of the time IMO.  You could call an e-fence company to find out if its possible to wire only your front door so that if she gets within a certain range of that front door the collar will start working.  I’d think there would be a way to work that and it may be inexpensive to do so. There are also items called Scat Mats that you place in front of doors or any area you don’t want your dog to proceed through.  When stepping on the mat, it gives off a vibration, something which most dogs hate.  They’ll stay far away from the mats.  I believe you can buy them from — Tara you could consider installing an invisible fence just inside the fence line so he cannot get too close.  You could talk to your neighbor about splitting the cost of whichever alternative you both find most acceptable. — Tara I know people who have electric fences and it works very well for them.  I know people who have them and whose dogs escape and refuse to come back in. From the details I know of all involved, I wouldn’t use an e-fence on: 1. An adult dog that wasn’t raised with the fence from a puppy 2. A dog with a high prey drive 3. A very stubborn dog If I put my female out in an e-fence, the very first kid, cat, dog or squirrel she sees would have her bolting through the barrier shock or not. When she finally loses interest in whatever has caused her to leave and her adrenalin has diminished, she will think rationally and realize she’s not willing to come back into the yard because she knows the shock would get her.  If you have a dog who just has to go after or up to any and everything that walks down the street then I’d definitely not recommend one of these systems.  The people I know who it works for installed them when their dogs were pups so they were brought up trained to it.  Two of the ones I know it didn’t work for have adult adopted dogs who weren’t raised with this kind of invisible barrier. Search Result 58 Since he got a taste of freedom and knows he can get out I doubt you’ll be able to stop him short of tethering him or using a more sophisticated device like an e-fence but I wouldn’t recommend going the electronic fence route without first doing your homework on the pros and cons of them and understand that they are not fool-proof. MacKenzie’s First Pinch Collar Class  I consider myself to be a pretty good basic obed. trainer of Boxers with some learned but not necessarily practiced, advanced training knowledge.  I think this because not only have I worked with all the dogs I’ve had at my house but I’m also the one in charge of all the dogs in our rescue, their behavioral issues (identifying and working with), basic training (done in the foster home) and a host of other things.  I’m the one who gives the advice and walks the foster volunteers through alot of things.  Now I don’t believe, for a second, that I would be successful at teaching basic obedience to other dogs in a class environment.  Maybe I would but probably not.  Other trainers with class experience may think I have no clue what I’m doing because my experience has been primarily hands-on and with only one breed.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I also thought maybe someone may have had some experience with Clomicalm (thanks for the name…all I could remember was ‘calm’). You’re welcome. I didn’t mean to start world war 3 here, just get some fresh ideas as sometimes when you’re involved in a situation you may tend to overlook the obvious. Don’t worry about it.  We have many world wars here but we get over them quickly enough and learn to play nicely again. — Tara

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HOWEDY pam,

Just so you know, my dog had a complete blood workup done several months ago to rule out anything medical that could be causing this fear (i.e. thyroid problems…).

BWEEAAAHAHAHHAHAAA!!! You got it backwards, pam. Thyroid problems are CAUSED BY STRESS from FEARS. After that was ruled out she was brought to a behavioral specialist at a local university.

BWEEEEEEEEEAAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAA!!! You wanna get your hard earned dough back? YOU CAN, you know. All you gotta do is FORGET EVERY THING them bums told you and study your FREE copy of The Amazing Puppy Wizard’s FREE WWW Wits’ End Dog Training Method Manual and DO ALL the EXXXERCISES AS INSTRUCTED and in a couple days you’ll CURE your dog’s phobias. MAYBE FASTER if you haven’t been bribing your dog with food rewards to teach IT not to BE AFRAID. I spent several hours with her and was ultimatley given literature to read and exericses to preform, thus the noted improvement I mentioned in my first post.

BWEEEEAAAHAHAHAHAHHAAAA!!!  And, no, HJM, she’s never been comfortable around children because of the screaming, quick movements and unpredictability.

NO. She’s NEVER been COMFORTABLE arHOWEND children on accHOWENT of you mishandle her, not on accHOWENT of children are children. Having no small children myself,

A STROKE OF LUCK! exposure to them has been and continues to be limited, but she has had all the exposure to children that I could provide and had been improving up until Monday night.

BWEEEEAAAAHHHAHAHAHAAAA!!! I know not to comfort her when she displays fear,

THAT’S HOWE COME SHE’S AFRAID. but to ignore it,

THAT’S SHEER IDIOCY.  give her a command to concentrate on

THAT’S HOWE COME YOU CAN’T CURE HER PHOBIAS. and praise lavishly for complying.

You mean AFTER the fact? I have been taking her to as many different types of places, and exposing her to as many different types of things as is in my power to do (noisy streets, constuction sites, parks, quiet places-so quiet that it is spooky) and everything had been going great.

That so? Every thing has been GOIN GREAT since DAY WON. This has been a year long process,

BWEEEEEEAAAHAHAHAHHAHAA!!! YOU’VE BEEN SWINDLED BY THE BEHAVIORIST. not something that just popped up.

The Amazing Puppy Wizard has C-HOWENTLESS CASE HISTORYS of ALL PHOBIAS being EXXXTINGUISHED NEARLY INSTANTLY. MAYBE FASTER, by simply NOT DOIN what you’ve been TAUGHT by your INCOMPTENT SWINDLING BEHAVIORIST. Lexi was afraid of the noise the wind made, leaves falling, her own shadow, when we first got her. As a pup, she would avoid people, not like most pups, running to snoop and play.

You’ve been followin the ADVICE of the EXXXPERTS. You’ve locked your dog in a box and ignored ITS cries and choked and bribed IT like HOWE you was TAUGHT. And you got your just desserts and your university behaviorist got your hard earned dough and you got LUGATZ.    BWEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAHAHAHHHAAA!!! And NHOWE you got The Amazing Puppy Wizard GIVIN IT TO YOU BOTH WAYS! The Amazing Puppy Wizard will CITE YOU C-HOWENTLESS CASE HISTORY’S of FEAR AGGRESSIVE and SHY dogs and SEPARATION ANXIHOWESNESS CURED NEARLY INSTANTLY withHOWET HURTIN noWON, and FOR FREE, to boot. Talk abHOWET addin INSULT to INJURY. Even The Amazing Puppy Wizard FEELS BAD for bein SO CRUEL.    BWEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHHAA!!! I was more or less wondering if anyone had had any experience with a dog like this and what ‘they’ did.

NHOWE YOU KNOW HOWE COME The Amazing Puppy Wizard GOES "BWEEEEEEEEEAAHAHAHAAAA!!!" BWEEEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHAHHAAAA!!!! I also thought maybe someone may have had some experience with Clomicalm (thanks for the name…all I could remember was ‘calm’).

Yeah. The pharmacutical company sez it works 15% of the time when used in conjunction with behaivor modification…BWEEEEEEAAHAHAA!!! I didn’t mean to start world war 3 here,

NO PROBLEMO! YOUR CASE HISTORY IS The Amazing Puppy Wizar’s Manna. just get some fresh ideas as sometimes when you’re involved in a situation you may tend to overlook the obvious.

You mean like there’s NO SUCCESSFUL EXXXPERTS EXXXCEPT The Amazing Puppy Wizard’s 100% CONSISTENTLY NEARLY INSTANTLY SUCCESSFUL FREE WWW Wits’ End Dog Training Method Manual Students. Your PALS call them LIARS and their posts FORGERIES. You can check EVERY WON of them for veracity. Your pals are in the same boat you are. GOOD LUCK. BWEEEEEEEEEAAHAHAHHAAA!!! And, to quote: "How would this person know exactly how to behave around her fearful dog, yet need to come here pleading for help???"…

You’re QUOTING a DOG ABUSING MENTAL CASE. I wasn’t pleading for help, just "some thoughts" on the matter was all I was asking for.

You’re askin LIARS DOG ABUSERS COWARDS and ACTIVE LONG TERM INCURABLE MENTAL CASES who HURT INTIMIDATE and MURDER dogs. And you want MOORE of the same same? I know how to behave around my fearful dog,

No you don’t or your dog WOULDN’T BE AFRAID. WOULD HE. but I’m always open to any and all experiences

That so? But you REFUSE to study your FREE copy of The Amazing Puppy Wizard’s FREE WWW Wits’ End Dog Training Method Manual on accHOWENT of it makes you FEEL like a dog abusing punk thug coward for what you’ve DONE to your dog. NOT TO WORRY, dog abuser. Only a MENTAL CASE would allHOWE THAT to prevent them from rehabilitating their fearful dog pryor to IT becoming aggressive and GETTIN DEAD like so many of the DOG LOVER’S DEAD DOGS you’re askin… like tara o. aka tee’s DEAD DOG Summer, FOR EXXXAMPLE. others may have had.

She MURDERED her own DEAD DOG Summer for the SAME SAME SAME SAME PROBLEM YOU GOT! You can never know too much.

INDEED?  Daylight Time  Well, let me tell you, your Wits’ End  Dog Training Method works.  My dog, Dasie, Loves to chase chameleons  around the barbecue on the patio. I  used this system on four different occasions.  When she went out today, she looked  everywhere else but the barbecue.   Amazing, just amazing.  I will write to Amanda about the video.  I am really excited to learn more, and  understand. Maybe just a little reassurance  that I am going about it the right way.  Thanks again  Paul .. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Tracy, What worked for me, in just one storm, was to praise the dog after each clap of thunder, telling him he’s a Good Dog! This is an almost 13 year old Doberman, BTW.  The next time it thundered, he did not even react at  all–you could not tell it was the same dog as before. There was more thunder just the other day, and same thing, nada, nothing, zilch, no cowering, whimpering, trying to hide at all, it was that simple. I got this idea from Jerry Howe, who might seem to be a "wild and crazy" character, but his non- abusive way of handling dogs WORKS. Wonderfully. Praise. It’s that simple. Juanita

"Just Want To Second Jerry’s Method For Dealing With This (Destructive Separation Anxiety). I’ve Suggested It To Quite A Few Clients Now And It’s Worked ‘EVERY TIME The Very First Time’ – marilyn, Trainer, 33 Years Experience. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text —— Original Message —– To: The Puppy Wizard Sent: Thursday, September 26, 2002 6:12 PM Aloha Jerry, Just wanted to let you know that the surrogate toy technique is working wonders.  I have not had a shredded sheet for over a week now.  It is nice to be able to leave the bed made and come home to a made bed. Your program is awesome, but you already know that.  Keep up the good work! Hoku Aloha Sunny, Just follow the training program to the letter, no matter how insignificant some of the step seem to be and your pupy will be a very well behaved dog in a few days. I would seriously consider backing out of the training classes as they will conflict with the Wit’s End principles. I went the training route first, and still had problems until I found Wits’ End.  Now I have two "new and improved" dogs. You won’t be dissapointed if you follow the program. Good luck, Hoku Jerry believes he’s a dog trainer. Fortunately, I happen to believe he is too. I took a rescued three year old beagle that had been kept outside all of its life that didn’t even recognize or respond to its name to Jerry’s home (That ugly cinder block shack??? get real) and in just over one hour of working with the dog, he was coming on command (not a quickly as he does now, but still…) and walking with us on a loose lead. His "hot/cold" exercise and "come when called" command and pack exercise WORK! and in all likelihood he’s never even been near a dog. Well, he’s been near mine, and done wonders for him. You don’t have to like him.  You don’t have  to agree with his methods, but as far as I am concerned, I’ve never seen any other training approach that was as fast and easy. <<<< Rest of original post deleted Ron Flanagan Orlando, Florida Your dog needs to be retrained. Contact Mr. Jerry Howe. Http://www.DoggyDoRight.com You can start by downloading the free training manual available on the site above. I used it on my 4 year old Fila Brasileiro. When I first brought him

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HOWEDY leah, Your IDIOCY didn’t work for your own dog’s FEAR of the GARBAGE MONSTER. REMEMBER? BWEEEEEEEEAAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – When Lexi saw them coming down the hill (screaming and yelling, of course), she just about had a heart attack. <snip again, but unfortunately we ran into some again. Her reaction was similar, but I thought not quite as reactive, and she was able to regain her composure enough to sniff around and even play fetch again before we went home. At this point, I was thinking that continual exposure would make this no big deal after awhile. Yes, continual exposure to desensitize her to it.  But under controlled conditions.  You can’t just keep surprising her with screaming sledders, or you’re going to worsen that fear – especially since it’s

happening in different – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – places, which will generalize it. First of all, exactly what is it that sets her off?  Is it the screaming or the toboggan or the sound of the toboggan, or the whole package? (For example, does she always react to the sound of children playing, or is it just specifically when they’re on a toboggan?)  What was different between the first incident and the second?  How do you react when she gets frightened?  How quickly does she get over it? Basically, I would take these steps: 1.  Expose her to the object of fear at a SAFE distance away – i.e., a distance at which she has no fear reaction. 2.  Open Bar – Every time the object is in her view or hearing, you’re rapid-firing with praise, treats, play, all three if they float her boat.  When the object is gone, you stop. 3.   As long as she’s showing no fear:  Next session, start at original spot. After a few minutes, move a bit closer. 4.  If at any point she begins to sho   wfear,movebackwards. 5.  Keep sessions short – i.e., 5 minutes. Unfortunately, the most important thing is that she is not "surprised" by an incident before she’s ready for it. Perhaps you can wait on her walks until after dark, when the kids are in bed? I’ve also heard that GSD’s go through a fear period around the 12 month mark and she’s now almost 14 months, so maybe this is part of it. Some people will tell you there are no fear periods.  All I can say is that I’ve seen too many adolescent GSDs who develop quirky little phobias to discount it entirely. :} But it still won’t go way on its own. — Family Dog Trainer "It’s A Dog’s Life" http://hometown.aol.com/dfrntdrums/myhomepage/index.html Get Healthy, Build Your Immune System, Lose Weight http://www.re-vita.net/dfrntdrums

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You’re a MENTAL CASE. YOU MURDERED YOUR OWN DEAD DOG Summer for THE SAME PROBLEM. REMEMBER?

From what you’ve written you’ve been doing everything right. The number one prescribed medication for a fearful dog is repeated

socialization attempts. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Being happy, ignoring perceived threats, acting like you & the dog are the only two people in the world is the most effective way to attempt to head off anxiety attacks. Reading your dog’s body language, trying to intervene before she goes into panic mode, and letting her decide what her limits are will go along ways with many dogs.  If your dog is treat-oriented then carrying treats around with you can also help.  If someone asks to pet her and you think she’d be willing to allow it, have the person offer her a treat first. If you see her becoming panicked try to distract her with a little training exercise where you give command(s) she knows and treat her for obeying. Having said all of that, there are some dogs that just don’t respond to these methods.  The fact that your pup was like this when you brought her home is a very big indicator that she has a faulty temperament. Pups like this are either rehabilitated with the methods described above and employing alot of patience and repeated, consistent attempts, or they’re not.  The ones who aren’t, IMO, should be allowed to remain like they are, with understanding owners, and no longer be continually exposed to frightening things. A behaviorist can help you more than a trainer if you are willing to seek professional help for her.  There are also medications available to help short-circuit panic attacks.  Some medications are stronger than others. Several of the more common ones will not change her energy level, focus or anything else noticable.  If going out in public is important to you and you think she would miss going on her walks then talk with your vet about a medication called Clomicalm and then seek a behaviorist. In the meantime, take your cues from your dog.  Be especially vigilant when she is around children.  She may be a total marshmallow who ‘wouldn’t hurt a fly’ but fearfulness and anxiety can and will trigger dog bites. If she feels cornered or harrassed, especially when she’s already in a panic state, don’t allow anyone but yourself & someone you know she trusts to go near her. — Tara

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THAT’S INSANE. YOU MURDERED YOUR OWN DEAD DOG Summer FOR THE SAME REASON.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – message It’s just a hunch, but this really isn’t the first time your dog has acted spooky around kids (especially loud ones), is it? She admitted the dog had been like this since she acquired him at 7 weeks of age. IMO, you need professional help.  You admit that your dog has always been a "nervous beast," and she’s probably never going to get any better if YOU continue to do the same old things. And things may even get a lot worse. IMO, there’s probably something that YOU are doing here, i.e., some way that YOU are reacting, behaving, etc., that’s contributing to your dog’s skittishness and fear. Not necessarily.  When a dog starts out fearful as a pup, and continued attempts at socialization don’t significantly remedy the problem, its not at all likely that the owner is doing something wrong.  Rather its very likely the dog’s temperament is at fault. Yes, there are ways to desensitize a dog to situations like you’re describing, but it’s also very easy to make matters worse (which is what you are probably doing already), too, if you don’t do them correctly. Yes and sometimes forced socialization with no results will make matters worse.  There are some dogs in this world that should be given the freedom to not go around people or places with loud noises.  If the dog proves to be unresponsive to exposure of such things then IMO its more kind to just allow the dog to be a hermit.  Not doing so continues to place the dog in situations where it becomes overly anxious. Get some help, Pam.  And keep your dog out of the park and away from rowdy, noisy kids in the interim.  Otherwise it’ll be that much harder for you to eventually deal with the situation effectively. By help I’d like to clarify that most trainers aren’t what’s needed here. Rather a behaviorist would be more effective. — Tara

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HOWEDY pam,

My dog Lexi has had a problem of being a nervous beast ever since we brought her home at seven weeks.

Yeah. And you’ve been postin here abHOWETS since the git go and you got your just desserts. We’ve been working through it

That so? Your dog is INSANE on accHOWENT of you ABUSED HER, pam. You’re a dog abusing mental case, just like the rest of your pals here.  and have been doing fairly well,

That so? until recently.

BWEEEEEEEEEEEEAAHAHAHAHHAHAAAA!!! We had her out for her evening walk Monday night at a local park. We were leaving a trail and entering into a field where some kids were tobogganing. When Lexi saw them coming down the hill (screaming and yelling, of course), she just about had a heart attack.

Well, you PRAISED HER, no DHOWET. She ran for her life.

And you told her it was O.K. and PRAISED HER AGAIN. She didn’t seem to relax and return to herself until after we were home for about a half an hour.

Right. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Tuesday night, we went to the same park, but a different location so as not to have her surprised by tobogganers again, but unfortunately we ran into some again. Her reaction was similar, but I t hought not quite as reactive, and she was able to regain her composure enough to sniff around and even play fetch again before we went home. At this point, I was thinking that continual exposure would make this no big deal after awhile. But….Wednesday night we had an uneventful walk and it wasn’t until we were home and Lexi had gone to bed that the problem came up again.

Ooops! Looks like Lexi got herself a OCD. I always leave the window open in the spare bedroom (Lexi’s room). Well, I guess a few kids in the neighborhood decided to slide down the snow banks across the street and Lexi heard their yells and screams. She bolted out of the bedroom and paced around the house like a caged animal.

Of curse, you could EXXXTINGUISH THAT in a couple minutes using effective non physical PRAISE and brief variably alternating distractions and PROLONGED SINCERE EXXXUBERANT NON PHYSICAL PRAISE. But you won’t DO that on accHOWENT of you don’t LIKE not forcing CON-TROLL, which is HOWE COME your dog is AFRAID OF EVERY THING since you bought IT from a ETHICKAL BREEDER. I tried to get her to go outside so she could see what was making the noise, but she wouldn’t go out

THAT’S on accHOWENT of your dog don’t TRUST you. (and this is a dog that is "always" wanting to be outside!)

UNLESS she’s AFRAID.  I closed all the windows to keep some of the noise out and after 10 or 15 minutes of this pacing, she finally settled in the corner of the dining room in behind the table and chairs (the furtherest point in the house away from the noise). When I saw that the kids had gone inside, I made Lexi go outside with me and we went over to where they had been playing so she could sniff the area. When we got back in the house, she finally relaxed enough to go back into ‘her’ bedroom.

Ahhhh, her HIDING PLACE. THAT will REINFORCE her PHOBIAS. Last night I had her out again, just walking around the neighborhood, and of course we ran into a couple of kids sliding in the snow.

IMAGINE? She reacted with extreme fear again

On accHOWENT of she DON’T TRUST YOU. (her breathing even seemed different), but after about 5 minutes our walk returned to normal (sniffing and being nosey instead of pulling and trying to get the heck outta here!).

IOW, you was CHOKIN her someMOORE.  With Christmas vacation coming up, I know there are going to be kids out in the snow every day. I don’t want to keep Lexi away from the park for 2 weeks, besides last night proved that just walking around home can be dangerous (in her mind).

Yeah. She’d be much better off in a shelter.  The worst part is I don’t want her to be afraid in our home.

RIGHT. That’s HOWE COME you take her HOWET for a choke. This was always the one place she showed  no signs of being afraid and now she’s lost that after Wednesday night.

That so?  Does anyone have any ideas about this.

Yeah. ALL FEAR is CAUSED BY MISHANDLING. She gets so agitated that she won’t even listen to her commands,

Yeah. Perhaps THAT’S HOWE COME she’s AFRAID? which I rely on in other ’scary situations’.

IOW, you REPRESS HER FEARS and THAT’S HOWE COME SHE DON’T TRUST YOU. I’ve been giving some thought to asking the vet for a medication (****something***calm) to help her get through the toboggan season, but I don’t know.

BWEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHHAHAAA!!! Your vet AIN’T GOT a CURE for FEAR of his abuser. I’ve also heard that GSD’s go through a fear period around the 12 month mark and she’s  now almost 14 months, so maybe this is part of it.

BWEEEEEEEAAAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAA!!! YOUR MENTALLY ILL PROFESSIONA DOG ABUSERS WILL SAY AND DO ANY THING TO DEFEND THEIR ALLEGED RIGHT TO HURT INTIMIDATE AND MURDER DOGS.  I’m lost.

You’re in EXXXCELLENT company. Any thoughts????

"BIRDS OF A FEATHER." HOWEDY Pam,

I’ve been working on a fear aggression issue

All aggression is fear. All fear is caused by mishandling. That means we can CURE fear behaviors NEARLY INSTANTLY by using EFFECTIVE NON PHYSICAL CONDITIONING, PROLONGED NON PHYSICAL PRAISE and PRAISE IN ADVANCE. with my 1-year-old German shepherd dog (Lexi)

A dog is a dog.  for quite some time now.

You can CURE your dog’s FEAR AGGRESION NEARLY INSTANTLY if you follow the INSTRUCTIONS in your own FREE copy of The Amazing Puppy Wizard’s FREE WWW Wits’ End Dog Training Method Manual PRECISELY and ask The Amazing Puppy Wizard if you need any additional FREE heelp.  I’ve been doing real well with her after ruling out all medical reasons

You wasted your time effort and money at the vets. and then seeing an animal behavioral specialist.

If you’d like to sue her and get your hard earned dough back The Amazing Puppy Wizard will assist you.  Following her instructions of putting Lexi on the NILIF

program, That’s SHEER IDIOCY. desensitizing and redirection

That’s SHEER IDIOCY. You CANNOT "REDIRECT" a FEAR behavior UNLESS you got sumpthin MOORE FEARFUL to REDIRECT the dog to. she

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m so sorry about your accident.  I hope you are both OK, as well as your baby!!! Thanks.  We are both pretty sore, but overall life is pretty good (though a bit stressful). I hope you can relax soon!! Thanks… hopefully things will calm down soon.  Our sick cat has had what we believe is its final operation (nasty infection from a very minor bite), and my wife and I each received a (relatively) clean bill of health… though she works in a job where she needs to be able to bend and move… and can not do that right now.  As a teacher, I can still teach while being a bit sore. I’m glad you received a clean bill of health.  That back issue about bending and moving is HELL!  I live with it every day of my life…and to be pregnant…must be horrible  :-(   The poor woman!!  I’m sure you are quite sore.  I hope you get some physical therapy so you don’t end up with permanent problems.  Use me as an example :-(   I’m a physical mess!

We are going to a chiropractor we trust… we have an appointment soon for a full examination.  We have also both been seen by MD’s… so we are being fully checked out.  At this point I am feeling fairly good… still some soreness, but considering the severity of the accident, I am faring well (my small 1990 Toyota Corolla was squished between two large trucks).  My wife is a bit less well off than I am, but still doing well considering everything. It helps that the insurance is now acting much better than it was… at first they were being very difficult, but now seem to be more willing to work with us.  Hopefully that continues. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m really not well versed on stress and panic attacks.  I often times react well in a stressful situation, and then have a melt down after the fact. I have done this in the past… been fine during similar stressful situations (helping kids with broken bones at camps, etc.) and been the one to keep a clear head, but then had an attack the next day.  Hopefully that does not happen this time… :) I hope it doesn’t happen, either.  Keep us posted on how you are doing, OK? So far so good – no real attacks. Amen :-)

Somewhat ironic.  I had an attack the day before the accident, and have been essentially fine as far as that goes since then. Hey, when is your baby due?  :-)   Congratulations!!!!!! Thanks… and that good news more than offsets all the bad.  :) The baby is due in early June… and we could not be more excited! That’s so wonderful :-)   I’m a gramma of three.  I couldn’t love them any more.  This is a joyous time in your life.  It does offset all the bad!  Once you see that little face…you are done for!  hehehehe

Arg!  The wait is hard enough without you saying things like that!  :) :) — "If a million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." –  Anatole France — The charter is available at:

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I feel like I’m being suffocated shortfly after takin the stuff…there’s gotta be somethin else he can prescribe. Maybe you could ask your doctor for another betablocker and see what it gets you?

what’s a beta and why ya wanna block it?

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Philip said Maybe you could ask your doctor for another betablocker and see what it gets you?

(i’m bettin another beta blocker).. but i found out what a beta blocker is.. so nevermind my inquiry.  i don’t see it on here tho, maybe it’s in the waitin room. ~tanya

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I feel like I’m being suffocated shortfly after takin the stuff…there’s gotta be somethin else he can prescribe. Maybe you could ask your doctor for another betablocker and see what it gets you? what’s a beta and why ya wanna block it?

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chest…and i cannot believe the amount of people that have been prescribed Atenolol for anxiety….the stuff is so cheap i’d be in heaven if it helped me with my anxiety. as a matter of fact, i’m supposed to take it everyday…..for a heart condition (I have a pacemaker) and i tend to kinda "forget" to take it just from the awful feeling it gives me. hubby gets on my ass about it, but i just can’t stand the side effects.

Maybe you could ask your doctor for another betablocker and see what it gets you? Philip – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m on a beta blocker called Atenolol for my anxiety. and Uthur says: Can a beta blocker help with other symptoms than a racing or irregular heartbeat? I’ve got the whole shebang :) Atenolol is for high blood pressure, right?  i was put on it for that, my dad’s on it for high bp, i got off it, as my bp was 120/90 and that’s not all that high promoted panic within like 8 minutes… it sounds like you need a benzo, Uthur.. but i dunno, i’m not a doctor, but i could be, based on the integrity of doctors these days. ~tanya

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Paxil was a good drug until people starting shooting up schools and it was blamed on the drug. Personally I don’t trust psych drugs. I’m on a beta blocker called Atenolol for my anxiety. Can a beta blocker help with other symptoms than a racing or irregular heartbeat? I’ve got the whole shebang :) Uthur

No. You need a benzo or/and an antidepressant and *Cognitive Behavioural Therapy*. Philip – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –

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There are plenty of beta blockers available.  If you haven’t already, ask your cardiodoc about alternatives that migh have fewer or less severe side effects. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – chest…and i cannot believe the amount of people that have been prescribed Atenolol for anxiety….the stuff is so cheap i’d be in heaven if it helped me with my anxiety. as a matter of fact, i’m supposed to take it everyday…..for a heart condition (I have a pacemaker) and i tend to kinda "forget" to take it just from the awful feeling it gives me. hubby gets on my ass about it, but i just can’t stand the side effects. I’m on a beta blocker called Atenolol for my anxiety. and Uthur says: Can a beta blocker help with other symptoms than a racing or irregular heartbeat? I’ve got the whole shebang :) Atenolol is for high blood pressure, right?  i was put on it for that, my dad’s on it for high bp, i got off it, as my bp was 120/90 and that’s not all that high promoted panic within like 8 minutes… it sounds like you need a benzo, Uthur.. but i dunno, i’m not a doctor, but i could be, based on the integrity of doctors these days. ~tanya

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I will definitely do that Major…….thanks!!

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – There are plenty of beta blockers available.  If you haven’t already, ask your cardiodoc about alternatives that migh have fewer or less severe side effects. my chest…and i cannot believe the amount of people that have been prescribed Atenolol for anxiety….the stuff is so cheap i’d be in heaven if it helped me with my anxiety. as a matter of fact, i’m supposed to take it everyday…..for a heart condition (I have a pacemaker) and i tend to kinda "forget" to take it just from the awful feeling it gives me. hubby gets on my ass about it, but i just can’t stand the side effects. I’m on a beta blocker called Atenolol for my anxiety. and Uthur says: Can a beta blocker help with other symptoms than a racing or irregular heartbeat? I’ve got the whole shebang :) Atenolol is for high blood pressure, right?  i was put on it for that, my dad’s on it for high bp, i got off it, as my bp was 120/90 and that’s not all that high promoted panic within like 8 minutes… it sounds like you need a benzo, Uthur.. but i dunno, i’m not a doctor, but i could be, based on the integrity of doctors these days. ~tanya

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I will Philip…..my next appt is September 23rd…..he had me on Toprol then switched me to the Atenolol….thanks for the advice….I take a low dose as someone else mentioned, just 25mg, and I feel like I’m being suffocated shortfly after takin the stuff…there’s gotta be somethin else he can prescribe. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Maybe you could ask your doctor for another betablocker and see what it gets you? Philip

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…for anxiety?  I tried Celexa for a year but it wasn’t great.  Has anyone ever felt truly well on a particular drug?  If you found a great drug, and were feeling normal for a long time, would your brain ‘forget’ how to have anxiety attacks? thanks, Uthur

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…for anxiety?  I tried Celexa for a year but it wasn’t great.  Has anyone ever felt truly well on a particular drug?  If you found a great drug, and were feeling normal for a long time, would your brain ‘forget’ how to have anxiety attacks? thanks, Uthur

Paxil was a good drug until people starting shooting up schools and it was blamed on the drug.  Personally I don’t trust psych drugs. I’m on a beta blocker called Atenolol for my anxiety.

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Paxil was a good drug until people starting shooting up schools and it was blamed on the drug.  Personally I don’t trust psych drugs. I’m on a beta blocker called Atenolol for my anxiety.

Can a beta blocker help with other symptoms than a racing or irregular heartbeat? I’ve got the whole shebang :) Uthur

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I’m on Atenolol for a heart problem and I hate taking it. It lowers my heart rate within 30 minutes of taking it (which is what it’s supposed to do) and then I feel weak and have to lay down. I’m amazed at the people who say they take this drug for panic/anxiety when it makes me feel horrible. What dose are you on?

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hey – I take a beta blocker, propranolol, for anxiety/panic [among a few other things!] But all in all, fairly low doses. Anyway, the beta blocker does a nice job for me. With your Doc, take a look at what scripts are available. -z-

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – …for anxiety?  I tried Celexa for a year but it wasn’t great.  Has anyone ever felt truly well on a particular drug?  If you found a great drug, and were feeling normal for a long time, would your brain ‘forget’ how to have anxiety attacks? thanks, Uthur Paxil was a good drug until people starting shooting up schools and it was blamed on the drug.  Personally I don’t trust psych drugs. I’m on a beta blocker called Atenolol for my anxiety.

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 If you found a great drug, and were feeling normal for a long time, would your brain ‘forget’ how to have anxiety attacks?

the brain is not very forgiving.. but i could forget my brain forgot how to stop having panic attacks… with a time machine.. ‘BEAM ME TO THE LATE 70′S, SCOTTIE’… bam. ~tanya

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I’m on a beta blocker called Atenolol for my anxiety.

and Uthur says: Can a beta blocker help with other symptoms than a racing or irregular heartbeat? I’ve got the whole shebang :)

Atenolol is for high blood pressure, right?  i was put on it for that, my dad’s on it for high bp, i got off it, as my bp was 120/90 and that’s not all that high promoted panic within like 8 minutes… it sounds like you need a benzo, Uthur.. but i dunno, i’m not a doctor, but i could be, based on the integrity of doctors these days. ~tanya

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Man I hate this new Groups 2 thing, lol, so confusing. Yea anyway, I’m on 25mg Atenolol and seems to help a lot. I don’t think it’s that big a dose. Although I know someone who was only put on 10mg of it for anxiety. They distrusted drugs so never took it though.

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chest…and i cannot believe the amount of people that have been prescribed Atenolol for anxiety….the stuff is so cheap i’d be in heaven if it helped me with my anxiety. as a matter of fact, i’m supposed to take it everyday…..for a heart condition (I have a pacemaker) and i tend to kinda "forget" to take it just from the awful feeling it gives me. hubby gets on my ass about it, but i just can’t stand the side effects.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m on a beta blocker called Atenolol for my anxiety. and Uthur says: Can a beta blocker help with other symptoms than a racing or irregular heartbeat? I’ve got the whole shebang :) Atenolol is for high blood pressure, right?  i was put on it for that, my dad’s on it for high bp, i got off it, as my bp was 120/90 and that’s not all that high promoted panic within like 8 minutes… it sounds like you need a benzo, Uthur.. but i dunno, i’m not a doctor, but i could be, based on the integrity of doctors these days. ~tanya

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Had it happen again at work and went to a Urgentcare facility. Took lots of blood and checked oxygen and ekg. Basicly the ekg was ok. SOme of the bloodwork did not come back. She said if it came back that it was anxiety attacks. I really disagree with this as it happens spur of the moment even when I am just home sitting on the floor watching tv. I wore one of those monitors earyier in the week and it showed I had periods where my heart rhythm got messed up. I have to go to a cariologist this week. I am home from work today. This really stinks!

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stry…@hotmail.com (Don) wrote in news:1a66b8fe.0409030534.126b7e43@posting.google.com: >  I have to go to a > cariologist this week.

Yes, get a second opinion.  

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In article <1a66b8fe.0409030534.126b7…@posting.google.com>, stry…@hotmail.com says… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Had it happen again at work and went to a Urgentcare facility. Took > lots of blood and checked oxygen and ekg. > Basicly the ekg was ok. SOme of the bloodwork did not come back. She > said if it came back that it was anxiety attacks. I really disagree > with this as it happens spur of the moment even when I am just home > sitting on the floor watching tv. > I wore one of those monitors earyier in the week and it showed I had > periods where my heart rhythm got messed up. I have to go to a > cariologist this week. > I am home from work today. > This really stinks!

that does stink and it could be panic attacks. have them check you for mitral valve prolapse too. — I promise to spank the plank daily.

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m brand new to this situation, so if I tend to ask alot of uninformed questions please excuse my ignorance. Anyway, for the past year or so I have been having (what I come to find out and had no idea untill very recently) panic attacks that have been slowly escalating in severeity and number of symptoms. It all started(that I can recall) one morning when I woke up out of a sound sleep and my whole body was numb and tingling along with my heart was racing and I was having trouble breathing. After it subsided I chalked it up to that I must have slept in the wrong position and that caused problems. From that point on it only got worse and more frequent. I finally started having severe chest pains(almost non-stop) with tingling in my limbs so of course I went to the ER thinking I was having a heart attack. Well, I’m sure you all know that there was nothing wrong with my heart. I ended going back to the ER 3 more times and being admitted for various test to make sure it was’nt my heart. After the third time the ER doctor(not my Primary Dr. he had no idea what was going on) Gave me a presciption for Lorezapam because nothing else had worked up untill that point. It worked!!!, I was so releived that after so long something actually helped me. That is untill I found out what was wrong with me. The reason is up to that point in time I mistakenly assumed anyone with these types of disorders could fix it themselves and it was all in their heads as well as they were just weak willed individuals.        Anyway, my primary MD has prescribed Paxil CR 25 mg and is keeping on the Lorazepam untill the Paxil kicks in since I have at least 1 attack a day now and the Lorezepam keeps the physical pain at a manageable level. He says he wants to wait to refer me to a shrink untill the intensity and frequency of the attacks subside. Is that wise? Because at this point I am more than willing to get help anyway I can and as soon as I can.        Sorry for the long winded story. Any suggestions or comments are more than welcome.

Hi and welcome! I could have almost written what you wrote only it was 4 years ago.  I only went to the ER once.  You will find most of us have been to the ER scared out of our minds. It’s good to find out your heart is ok but then we want to know what in the heck is going on, right?  I had the opposite experience with the doctors. The ER doctor decided what was happening to me was a reaction to an herbal supplement, Kava.  She had never heard of it and had to look it up and then said "oh, yeah, that’s probably it."  Panic was never mentioned.  It took me going to me GP and the first thing he said, as I was having a full fledged panic attack, "I think it’s panic disorder."  I was thinking WHAT????  I, like you, thought that was something weak people got.  You get over, I have seen it in the movies.  Boy was I wrong. I have come to realize, and you will too, that it is like having high blood pressure or diabetes.  It is a true illness that responds to medication. The medication that saved me was Zoloft.  It’s wonderful when it kicks in, huh? As far as being referred to a psychiatrist, if that is what you want, I wouldn’t wait.  I would go to one. I wish you well and hope you feel even better. Vicki — The charter is available at:

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"urf" <u…@nospam.com> writes: > WHAT IS AGORAPHOBIA > The term agoraphobia has been widely misunderstood. Its literal definition > suggests a fear of "open spaces".

I don’t know greek, but I always thought the literal meaning suggested "fear of the marketplace."  The rest of this is interesting though. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> However, this is an incomplete and > misleading view. Agoraphobics are not necessarily afraid of open spaces. > Rather, they are afraid of having panicky feelings, wherever. these fearful > feelings may occur. For many, they happen at home, in houses of worship, or > in crowded supermarkets, places that are certainly not "open". > In fact, agoraphobia is a condition which develops when a person begins to > avoid spaces or situations associated with anxiety. Typical "phobic > situations" might include driving, shopping, crowded places, traveling, > standing in line, being alone, meetings and social gatherings. > Agoraphobia arises; from an internal anxiety condition that has become so > intense that the suffering individual fears going anywhere or doing anything > where these feelings of panic have repeatedly occurred before. Once the > panic attacks have started, these episodes become the ongoing stress, even > when other more obvious pressures have diminished. This sets up a "feedback > condition" which generally leads to increased numbers of panic attacks and, > for some people, an increase in the situations or events which can produce > panicky feelings. Others experience fearful feelings continuously, more a > feeling of overall. discomfort, rather than panic. > A person may fear having anxiety attacks, "losing control", or embarrassing > him/herself in such situations. Many people remain in a painful state of > anxious anticipation because of these fears. Some become restricted or > "housebound" while others function "normally" but with great difficulty, > often attempting to hide their discomfort. > Agoraphobia, then, is both a severe anxiety condition and a phobia, as well > as a pattern of avoidant behavior.

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Auntie Em wrote: > Gimme some input, gang…… Pleeeeeeeese.

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"John Royer" <jro…@istar.ca> wrote in message

news:ca77t5$a1l$1@news.eusc.inter.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Joy" <joydoesntlikes…@nospam.yahoo.com> wrote in message > news:10c9hlkruhhum32@corp.supernews.com… > > "John Royer" <jro…@istar.ca> wrote in message > > news:ca2ete$6k$1@news.eusc.inter.net… > > > "Joy" <joydoesntlikes…@nospam.yahoo.com> wrote in message > > > news:10c3omd5v27hq46@corp.supernews.com… > > > > "Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote in message > > > > news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… > > > > You say "ostensibly" for a hike – which is different from saying > > > "mandatory > > > > hike".  Here’s your compromise.  Picnic instead of hiking.  Find out > > where > > > > there is a nice picnic area (something you drive to, not hike to) > > complete > > > > with restrooms.  Then pack a gourmet picnic basket, full of your > > favorite > > > > foods.  Who says picnics have to be sandwiches?  It can be whatever > you > > > most > > > > want to eat.  Take a nice tablecloth for the picnic table, a couple of > > > lawn > > > > chairs, and citronella candles.  Perhaps you’ll never be an > > > outdoorswoman – > > > > but I’ll bet you could get into packing the "ultimate picnic basket" > as > > an > > > > art form. > > >  Joy > > > Thank God you’re not my wife…….what an absolutely ridiculous > > compromise. > > > Kind of like saying "Honey lets rocket to the moon"….."no dear, but if > > you > > > want to, you can make a paper airplane"….."now wasn’t that fun"? > > > Talk about a soul killer……. > > > One is active……your suggestion is lazy…..do you really think hubby > > is > > > gonna want to lie down? > > > John > > Actually, I’m betting he likes to eat. > If he wanted to eat he would’ve suggested a restaurant.

I think you’re missing something.  First of all, there really isn’t anything wrong with compromise as long as both parties are compromising, and in sufficient agreement.  Second, apparently Auntie Em’s husband liked the picnic idea.  Third, you’re lacking in imagination – some of the most fun I’ve ever had has been on the "boy and girl out on a picnic" date.  With a little thought, I’m sure you can see the possibilities. Seriously, you come across as a guy who is a bit disgruntled.  Are you OK? Did you ever have a spouse refuse to go hiking or something, making it a hot button for you?

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news:10c9hlkruhhum32@corp.supernews.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "John Royer" <jro…@istar.ca> wrote in message > news:ca2ete$6k$1@news.eusc.inter.net… > > "Joy" <joydoesntlikes…@nospam.yahoo.com> wrote in message > > news:10c3omd5v27hq46@corp.supernews.com… > > > "Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote in message > > > news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… > > > You say "ostensibly" for a hike – which is different from saying > > "mandatory > > > hike".  Here’s your compromise.  Picnic instead of hiking.  Find out > where > > > there is a nice picnic area (something you drive to, not hike to) > complete > > > with restrooms.  Then pack a gourmet picnic basket, full of your > favorite > > > foods.  Who says picnics have to be sandwiches?  It can be whatever you > > most > > > want to eat.  Take a nice tablecloth for the picnic table, a couple of > > lawn > > > chairs, and citronella candles.  Perhaps you’ll never be an > > outdoorswoman – > > > but I’ll bet you could get into packing the "ultimate picnic basket" as > an > > > art form. > >  Joy > > Thank God you’re not my wife…….what an absolutely ridiculous > compromise. > > Kind of like saying "Honey lets rocket to the moon"….."no dear, but if > you > > want to, you can make a paper airplane"….."now wasn’t that fun"? > > Talk about a soul killer……. > > One is active……your suggestion is lazy…..do you really think hubby > is > > gonna want to lie down? > > John > Actually, I’m betting he likes to eat.

If he wanted to eat he would’ve suggested a restaurant.

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news:ca2ete$6k$1@news.eusc.inter.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Joy" <joydoesntlikes…@nospam.yahoo.com> wrote in message > news:10c3omd5v27hq46@corp.supernews.com… > > "Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote in message > > news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… > > You say "ostensibly" for a hike – which is different from saying > "mandatory > > hike".  Here’s your compromise.  Picnic instead of hiking.  Find out where > > there is a nice picnic area (something you drive to, not hike to) complete > > with restrooms.  Then pack a gourmet picnic basket, full of your favorite > > foods.  Who says picnics have to be sandwiches?  It can be whatever you > most > > want to eat.  Take a nice tablecloth for the picnic table, a couple of > lawn > > chairs, and citronella candles.  Perhaps you’ll never be an > outdoorswoman – > > but I’ll bet you could get into packing the "ultimate picnic basket" as an > > art form. >  Joy > Thank God you’re not my wife…….what an absolutely ridiculous compromise. > Kind of like saying "Honey lets rocket to the moon"….."no dear, but if you > want to, you can make a paper airplane"….."now wasn’t that fun"? > Talk about a soul killer……. > One is active……your suggestion is lazy…..do you really think hubby is > gonna want to lie down? > John

Actually, I’m betting he likes to eat.

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"Dr Nancy’s Sweetie" <kil…@elvis.rowan.edu> wrote in message news:c9sthl$uqr$1@pcls4.std.com… > "Auntie Em <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com>" wrote about being what Jack > Dawson described as "kind of an indoor girl", whose husband likes > The Great Outdoors ™. > For the general case, there are intermediate stages.  Back home, a > screened-in porch or gazebo by the garden would let you be inside, while > still keeping him company as he works in the garden.  You could also > both sit in the semi-outside together on the porch/gazebo, him with the > Great Outdoors ™ right at hand, and you with a roof over your head.

ROTFLMAO…….you have got to be kidding…….60 million sperm and you were the first? > Before the invention of air conditioning, people kept nice gardens as a > way to keep cool.  The Adam Thoroughgood House (ca 1650) in Virginia > Beach has Mr Thoroughgood’s recreated garden out back.  There’s an arbor > out back, which has a T-shaped floorplan, open on all three ends, and > covered entirely with arching branches which have grown along the frame. > They have plants (lavender, I think) known to be disliked by bugs at the > entrances and along the sides.  From the center, it’s about 15 feet to > the arched exits.  ANYWAY, the point is that inside this thing, it’s > about 20 degrees cooler than outside.  On a 90-degree humid day in > Virginia Beach in August, Mr Thoroughgood and his family would sit in > the shady arbor, enjoying 17-th century air conditioning, mostly > unmolested by bugs.

They just had to worry about the flying fish that were off course…… > As for shopping, maybe the two of you could compromise and shop at a > place such as LL Bean, or Land’s End, or maybe Home Depot.

50,000 battered women…….and I still eat mine plain……go figure. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> As for hiking, not every hiking trip has to be a full-scale re-enactment > of the Donner Party.  Ski resorts often label the ski runs in terms of > difficulty (with names like "bunny slope", "Intermediate", "Abandon All > Hope", and so on).  I’ve been to places where hiking trails are > similarly labelled.  Find some sort of guide and look for the easy > trails.  Get some bug repellent, a pair of sunglasses, a good hat, and a > walking stick.  You’ll live to tell the tale.  Probably. >  * > > I sweetly remind him that nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at > > the mall, and I can’t remember the last time I got a mosquito bite > > there. > At the mall nearest my house, three people were killed in a botched bank > robbery.  But that’s not going to keep you out of the mall, is it? > Statistically, you’re probably more likely to die in a traffic accident > on the way to the mall than you are to be killed by a cougar.  But > you’ll still drive, won’t you? >  * > The following is a wacky idea, but you might consider giving it a go:

No the wacky idea was articulated above………the one below is intelligent. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> you and your husband could take a wilderness survival course together. > What I’m thinking here is that if you have a controlled environment in > which you are exposed to way more of The Great Outdoors ™ than you > think you can stand, it may adjust your perspective.  After you finish, > you’ll have a sense of accomplishment, and you’ll think of a hike as a > piece of cake by comparison to what you’re now equipped to do.  And, of > course, your husband will probably be impressed by how strong an effort > you’ve made to become a better partner for him.  That’ll give you huge > leverage when you sign him up for a 13-week course in ballroom > dancing. 8-) > Darren Provine ! kil…@elvis.rowan.edu ! http://www.rowan.edu/~kilroy > Doctor: "Well, that was a piece of cake, eh K-9?" >    K-9: "Piece of cake, Master?  Radial slice of baked confection … >          coefficient of relevance to Key of Time: zero."

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news:10c3omd5v27hq46@corp.supernews.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote in message > news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… > You say "ostensibly" for a hike – which is different from saying "mandatory > hike".  Here’s your compromise.  Picnic instead of hiking.  Find out where > there is a nice picnic area (something you drive to, not hike to) complete > with restrooms.  Then pack a gourmet picnic basket, full of your favorite > foods.  Who says picnics have to be sandwiches?  It can be whatever you most > want to eat.  Take a nice tablecloth for the picnic table, a couple of lawn > chairs, and citronella candles.  Perhaps you’ll never be an outdoorswoman – > but I’ll bet you could get into packing the "ultimate picnic basket" as an > art form.

 Joy Thank God you’re not my wife…….what an absolutely ridiculous compromise. Kind of like saying "Honey lets rocket to the moon"….."no dear, but if you want to, you can make a paper airplane"….."now wasn’t that fun"? Talk about a soul killer……. One is active……your suggestion is lazy…..do you really think hubby is gonna want to lie down? John – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –

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"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote: > Gimme some input, gang…… Pleeeeeeeese.

Negotiate a solution that will make you both happy. Example:  go to Estes park.  Wander through the streets and visit the little shops.  You have a cup of tea in one of the restaurants while he goes for a hike which starts right outside of Estes.  Example 2:  Rent a nice big comfy RV and go camping in it.  He can light a camp fire outside and hang food up in trees, and you cn stay inside except for coming out and enjoying the sunset with him.

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"A man" <u…@ftc.gov> wrote in message news:2ijd4kFngch1U1@uni-berlin.de…

[snip] > Here are tips I’ve collected about bug repellants. I love the outdoors but I am > a real bug attractor. I get 10x the bites that anyone else does. Now if that > were only true concerning the fish!

[sniip] > – Some people say eating garlic helps keep biting insects away. But don’t eat > bananas, bugs love the smell.

For foods that repel mosquitos, those with B vitamins, such as brewer’s yeast work IME.  (My wife also is repelled by this, so it mainly is something that I have used occasionally with a cat, not myself.) — Tsam

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On Fri, 4 Jun 2004 21:57:28 -0500 in article <xEawc.3980$Sq1.888 @fe38.usenetserver.com>, "Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> spoke thusly… > Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up into > the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I sweetly > replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that". > Hubby dear, sweetly reminded me that he willingly accompanies me to the mall > when I simply cannot bear another day without it.  I sweetly remind him that > nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at the mall, and I can’t remember > the last time I got a mosquito bite there.

How about if you compromise? How about if you go hiking for a short time someplace where there’s a breeze (to keep away the bugs), not too cliff-like (to keep away from heights), and out in the open (away from bugs again)? You could also use some bug spray too. I don’t know much about the area you are in, but are there wide open spaces with trails? Or is it all in the woods? Here are tips I’ve collected about bug repellants. I love the outdoors but I am a real bug attractor. I get 10x the bites that anyone else does. Now if that were only true concerning the fish! – DEET is the best repellant, but higher concentrations (25%+) have been reported as being harmful to people. Remember, your skin will absorb almost anthing it comes into contact with. – Try Naturepel, it is made with citronella oil, an effective mosquito repellant. I tried this. It has a REALLY strong odor. If you can get used to the odor, it works great. – I also tried the electric repellers (shaped like a large capsule). And they work for me, but work best on mosquitos. They don’t seem to keep biting flies away. They are supposed to imitate the sound of dragonfly wings, the mosquito’s natural enemy. And they only work on one side of your body (your body blocks the sound) so get 2 of them. – To keep deerflies away (like a horsefly but smaller) catch them. To catch them, put a yellow piece of cardboard on the top of your hat (where they are buzzing around) then put a sticky substance on it, like Tanglefoot, found in the garden section of stores. – Some people say eating garlic helps keep biting insects away. But don’t eat bananas, bugs love the smell. – Put a teaspoon of vanilla extract in a cup of water. Rub this on your skin. Smells great and works. I don’t know if the artificial extract will work or not. Try it. – To catch blackflies, wear a hardhat smeared with chainsaw oil. The flies will get trapped and you can kill them. Other sticky oils will also work. – Wear a mosquito head net. Sold in hunting or sporting good stores. There is also a  mosquito top and leggings, made of a very light material to keep you cool in summer. > Then I suggest in a very sincere (and non-sarcastic way) that he get one of > his friends who enjoys hiking to go with him.  He replies that he wants to > be with MEEEEEEE on his day off and wouldn’t enjoy it nearly as much with > anyone else.  After all, I am his best friend (which is true), and we do > everything together.

But isn’t it nice he wants so much to be with you? :) > Yes, Yes Yes, I know that it is a woman’s duty to obey her husband’s wishes. > Yes, Yes, Yes, I know I preach on a daily basis to anyone who will listen > how wives need to relent their own needs and desires and, in this case, > fears and dislikes, on behalf of their husband. But do I really NEED to do > this just to be a good wife?

If you are referring to the bible, I don’t think the intention was "to obey her husband’s every wish." I think the intention was to 1) compromise, 2) lead in the development of a good relationship since that is what women are good at, and men are not so good at, 3) for women to bite their tongue, since they tend to have a little higher verbal temper, if you know what I mean. > What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along with it > even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten alive by > gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns?

I think you are being unreasonable to not compromise. Thus I put my idea above. — Say no to fixed width tables. They look terrible in all browsers.

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"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote in message news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… > What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?

Actually, yes, you’re being unreasonable. I’m kidding, I just wanted to be able to say that, once, in this newsgroup. How about doing something in between?  You could hike to the mall! M9

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"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote in message news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… *snip story of Em’s dislike of outdoors* > What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along with it > even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten alive by > gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns? > Gimme some input, gang…… Pleeeeeeeese.

I’m not a fan of heights either, so I can sympathize with you there. I also do not like strenuous, day-long "hikes" very much – I have no interest in forging a path. That being said, a nice 2 hr walk in the woods (etc) can really be very enjoyable. If your husband picked a nice, easy walking trail without cliffs and planned a 2 hr walk, I think you should try to go and enjoy it. Bug repellant works very well, so the bug issue is taken care of. No cliffs – Check. Cougars? Extremely doubtful. Not that this matters, but I’d *love* to be in Colorado now with time to take a nice walk :) When else in your life are you going to be able to walk near the Rockies?

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"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote in message news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi everybody.  Well it looks like it is my turn to get some good advice from > my chums here at ASM. > A little background. > It would be a huge understatement to say that I am not an outdoor person. I > have never, in my life enjoyed being outside.  I have vivid childhood > recollections of spending a lot of time in the closet with a flashlight – > partially to be as far away from my father as possible, and partially > because I really liked it there. > As a child I had a bicycle.  But it was more for transportation than > recreation.  I have memories of myself on camping trips where I would be > sitting in the camper reading magazines or books while everyone else was > outside. > A friend of mine once told me that the only way to get me out of the house > would be to set it on fire.  I am more than happy spending DAYS inside > without so much as exposing my big toe to the great outdoors. > Got the picture? > Now let’s take a look at my husband.  He is Mr. Outside.  When we are home > in the beautiful State of Missouri, he constantly finds things to do > outside.  Yardwork, working in the garden, you name it.  Hot or cold, humid > or not – that boy is outside even if it is only sitting on the front porch > in the evening drinking a beer.  He gets up early and is outside ALL day > long. > Needless to say our tastes differ when it comes to recreation.  Even though > I am NOT a shopper, my greatest joy in life is going to the mall.  I can > spend ALL DAY in the mall (and not buy anything I might add) where it is a > pleasant 70 degrees, no bugs and lots of fun things to look at (especially > the people).  My husband on the other hand, would rather have his thumbs cut > off than spend more than 10 minutes there "getting what he needs" and then > departing as quickly as possible. > Ok, so you get the gist of where I am going with this. > Here we are stuck in Colorado for the summer.  No I’m not happy about it and > to tell the truth I think I would rather be in a maximum security prison for > repeat offenders in Alabama, but I digress. > DH, of course, wants to go hiking.  I, of course, don’t.  Because, not only > do I despise the outdoors with every fiber of my being, but I am hate > heights.  I once went with friends to the Grand Canyon and refused to get > out of the car.  I won’t even go up into high rise buildings because I find > that I get extremely anxious when I do. > Naturally, hiking in Colorado involves walking along tiny bits of pathway > that are usually no wider than 18 inches above a rather impressive drop of > at least 200 – 300 feet straight down. Not to mention all the attendant joys > such as heat, dehydration, bugs, blinding sunlight and the not-that-remote > possibility of meeting up with a bear or cougar. > Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up into > the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I sweetly > replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that". > Hubby dear, sweetly reminded me that he willingly accompanies me to the mall > when I simply cannot bear another day without it.  I sweetly remind him that > nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at the mall, and I can’t remember > the last time I got a mosquito bite there. > Then I suggest in a very sincere (and non-sarcastic way) that he get one of > his friends who enjoys hiking to go with him.  He replies that he wants to > be with MEEEEEEE on his day off and wouldn’t enjoy it nearly as much with > anyone else.  After all, I am his best friend (which is true), and we do > everything together. > Well, here I am feeling like the Grinch because I simply DON’T WANT TO > GO!!!!!  I am practically begging him to go with someone (anyone) else, even > a female for Chrissakes!  Just leave me the hell out of it.  Let me stay > home in AIR CONDITIONED splendor with my computer and radio and blissfully > enjoy the day the way I enjoy it best – INDOORS. > Yes, Yes Yes, I know that it is a woman’s duty to obey her husband’s wishes. > Yes, Yes, Yes, I know I preach on a daily basis to anyone who will listen > how wives need to relent their own needs and desires and, in this case, > fears and dislikes, on behalf of their husband. But do I really NEED to do > this just to be a good wife? > What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along with it > even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten alive by > gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns? > Gimme some input, gang…… Pleeeeeeeese. > Em

WHAT IS AGORAPHOBIA The term agoraphobia has been widely misunderstood. Its literal definition suggests a fear of "open spaces". However, this is an incomplete and misleading view. Agoraphobics are not necessarily afraid of open spaces. Rather, they are afraid of having panicky feelings, wherever. these fearful feelings may occur. For many, they happen at home, in houses of worship, or in crowded supermarkets, places that are certainly not "open". In fact, agoraphobia is a condition which develops when a person begins to avoid spaces or situations associated with anxiety. Typical "phobic situations" might include driving, shopping, crowded places, traveling, standing in line, being alone, meetings and social gatherings. Agoraphobia arises; from an internal anxiety condition that has become so intense that the suffering individual fears going anywhere or doing anything where these feelings of panic have repeatedly occurred before. Once the panic attacks have started, these episodes become the ongoing stress, even when other more obvious pressures have diminished. This sets up a "feedback condition" which generally leads to increased numbers of panic attacks and, for some people, an increase in the situations or events which can produce panicky feelings. Others experience fearful feelings continuously, more a feeling of overall. discomfort, rather than panic. A person may fear having anxiety attacks, "losing control", or embarrassing him/herself in such situations. Many people remain in a painful state of anxious anticipation because of these fears. Some become restricted or "housebound" while others function "normally" but with great difficulty, often attempting to hide their discomfort. Agoraphobia, then, is both a severe anxiety condition and a phobia, as well as a pattern of avoidant behavior.

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"Auntie Em <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com>" wrote about being what Jack Dawson described as "kind of an indoor girl", whose husband likes The Great Outdoors ™. For the general case, there are intermediate stages.  Back home, a screened-in porch or gazebo by the garden would let you be inside, while still keeping him company as he works in the garden.  You could also both sit in the semi-outside together on the porch/gazebo, him with the Great Outdoors ™ right at hand, and you with a roof over your head. Before the invention of air conditioning, people kept nice gardens as a way to keep cool.  The Adam Thoroughgood House (ca 1650) in Virginia Beach has Mr Thoroughgood’s recreated garden out back.  There’s an arbor out back, which has a T-shaped floorplan, open on all three ends, and covered entirely with arching branches which have grown along the frame. They have plants (lavender, I think) known to be disliked by bugs at the entrances and along the sides.  From the center, it’s about 15 feet to the arched exits.  ANYWAY, the point is that inside this thing, it’s about 20 degrees cooler than outside.  On a 90-degree humid day in Virginia Beach in August, Mr Thoroughgood and his family would sit in the shady arbor, enjoying 17-th century air conditioning, mostly unmolested by bugs. As for shopping, maybe the two of you could compromise and shop at a place such as LL Bean, or Land’s End, or maybe Home Depot. As for hiking, not every hiking trip has to be a full-scale re-enactment of the Donner Party.  Ski resorts often label the ski runs in terms of difficulty (with names like "bunny slope", "Intermediate", "Abandon All Hope", and so on).  I’ve been to places where hiking trails are similarly labelled.  Find some sort of guide and look for the easy trails.  Get some bug repellent, a pair of sunglasses, a good hat, and a walking stick.  You’ll live to tell the tale.  Probably.  * > I sweetly remind him that nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at > the mall, and I can’t remember the last time I got a mosquito bite > there.

At the mall nearest my house, three people were killed in a botched bank robbery.  But that’s not going to keep you out of the mall, is it? Statistically, you’re probably more likely to die in a traffic accident on the way to the mall than you are to be killed by a cougar.  But you’ll still drive, won’t you?  * The following is a wacky idea, but you might consider giving it a go: you and your husband could take a wilderness survival course together. What I’m thinking here is that if you have a controlled environment in which you are exposed to way more of The Great Outdoors ™ than you think you can stand, it may adjust your perspective.  After you finish, you’ll have a sense of accomplishment, and you’ll think of a hike as a piece of cake by comparison to what you’re now equipped to do.  And, of course, your husband will probably be impressed by how strong an effort you’ve made to become a better partner for him.  That’ll give you huge leverage when you sign him up for a 13-week course in ballroom dancing. 8-) Darren Provine ! kil…@elvis.rowan.edu ! http://www.rowan.edu/~kilroy Doctor: "Well, that was a piece of cake, eh K-9?"    K-9: "Piece of cake, Master?  Radial slice of baked confection …          coefficient of relevance to Key of Time: zero."

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"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> schrieb im Newsbeitrag news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… > Hi everybody.  Well it looks like it is my turn to get some good advice from > my chums here at ASM.

Hi Auntie Em, its interesting, my wife and I have the same problem since years. We are both in our late 50’s and we are old enough not to force each other to one’s interests. I like to go to the mountains, hiking and biking. My wife likes to lay at the beach on a greek Island. So do we every year what we like – alone – but with fun and we enjoy it. I think its the only way to solve different interests – we have good experiences with it. But auntie – how is your body shape? You know bodymoving ist important for health …I don’t know if Mall-walking is enough :-) Have a good time Klaus from Germany

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"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> > > Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up into > the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I sweetly > replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that". > Hubby dear, sweetly reminded me that he willingly accompanies me to the mall > when I simply cannot bear another day without it.  I sweetly remind him that > nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at the mall, and I can’t remember > the last time I got a mosquito bite there.

Fair enough. He gave it his best shot but does he honestly expect you to do something that makes you that uncomfortable? Surely not. Stick to your guns. Amy

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"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote in message news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… > Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up into > the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I sweetly > replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that".

You say "ostensibly" for a hike – which is different from saying "mandatory hike".  Here’s your compromise.  Picnic instead of hiking.  Find out where there is a nice picnic area (something you drive to, not hike to) complete with restrooms.  Then pack a gourmet picnic basket, full of your favorite foods.  Who says picnics have to be sandwiches?  It can be whatever you most want to eat.  Take a nice tablecloth for the picnic table, a couple of lawn chairs, and citronella candles.  Perhaps you’ll never be an outdoorswoman – but I’ll bet you could get into packing the "ultimate picnic basket" as an art form. Kind of reminds me of a recent experience – a local orchestra was performing in an outdoor amphitheatre near here.  People were bringing picnics.  This one group had set up their picnic right up front – they had brought a table and chairs, fancy tablecloth, silver candelabra, fancy serving dishes, and had obviously put on a real spread.  I’ll have to say, I thought it was great – and they had obviously had a lot of fun with it, too. Joy

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"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> wrote in message news:xEawc.3980$Sq1.888@fe38.usenetserver.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi everybody.  Well it looks like it is my turn to get some good advice from > my chums here at ASM. > A little background. > It would be a huge understatement to say that I am not an outdoor person. I > have never, in my life enjoyed being outside.  I have vivid childhood > recollections of spending a lot of time in the closet with a flashlight – > partially to be as far away from my father as possible, and partially > because I really liked it there. > As a child I had a bicycle.  But it was more for transportation than > recreation.  I have memories of myself on camping trips where I would be > sitting in the camper reading magazines or books while everyone else was > outside. > A friend of mine once told me that the only way to get me out of the house > would be to set it on fire.  I am more than happy spending DAYS inside > without so much as exposing my big toe to the great outdoors. > Got the picture? > Now let’s take a look at my husband.  He is Mr. Outside.  When we are home > in the beautiful State of Missouri, he constantly finds things to do > outside.  Yardwork, working in the garden, you name it.  Hot or cold, humid > or not – that boy is outside even if it is only sitting on the front porch > in the evening drinking a beer.  He gets up early and is outside ALL day > long. > Needless to say our tastes differ when it comes to recreation.  Even though > I am NOT a shopper, my greatest joy in life is going to the mall.  I can > spend ALL DAY in the mall (and not buy anything I might add) where it is a > pleasant 70 degrees, no bugs and lots of fun things to look at (especially > the people).  My husband on the other hand, would rather have his thumbs cut > off than spend more than 10 minutes there "getting what he needs" and then > departing as quickly as possible. > Ok, so you get the gist of where I am going with this. > Here we are stuck in Colorado for the summer.  No I’m not happy about it and > to tell the truth I think I would rather be in a maximum security prison for > repeat offenders in Alabama, but I digress. > DH, of course, wants to go hiking.  I, of course, don’t.  Because, not only > do I despise the outdoors with every fiber of my being, but I am hate > heights.  I once went with friends to the Grand Canyon and refused to get > out of the car.  I won’t even go up into high rise buildings because I find > that I get extremely anxious when I do. > Naturally, hiking in Colorado involves walking along tiny bits of pathway > that are usually no wider than 18 inches above a rather impressive drop of > at least 200 – 300 feet straight down. Not to mention all the attendant joys > such as heat, dehydration, bugs, blinding sunlight and the not-that-remote > possibility of meeting up with a bear or cougar. > Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up into > the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I sweetly > replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that". > Hubby dear, sweetly reminded me that he willingly accompanies me to the mall > when I simply cannot bear another day without it.  I sweetly remind him that > nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at the mall, and I can’t remember > the last time I got a mosquito bite there. > Then I suggest in a very sincere (and non-sarcastic way) that he get one of > his friends who enjoys hiking to go with him.  He replies that he wants to > be with MEEEEEEE on his day off and wouldn’t enjoy it nearly as much with > anyone else.  After all, I am his best friend (which is true), and we do > everything together. > Well, here I am feeling like the Grinch because I simply DON’T WANT TO > GO!!!!!  I am practically begging him to go with someone (anyone) else, even > a female for Chrissakes!  Just leave me the hell out of it.  Let me stay > home in AIR CONDITIONED splendor with my computer and radio and blissfully > enjoy the day the way I enjoy it best – INDOORS. > Yes, Yes Yes, I know that it is a woman’s duty to obey her husband’s wishes. > Yes, Yes, Yes, I know I preach on a daily basis to anyone who will listen > how wives need to relent their own needs and desires and, in this case, > fears and dislikes, on behalf of their husband. But do I really NEED to do > this just to be a good wife? > What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along with it > even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten alive by > gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns? > Gimme some input, gang…… Pleeeeeeeese. > Em

I would try to find some middle ground, if there was any to be found. Think about the elements you hate most, fear of tiny paths, strenuousness (if that is the case, you do not specifically mention this), whatever, fear of heights. Think about the elements that would most pleasant for your husband. Then see if there are other places to go which minimize your discomfort. Perhaps there is a mountain with an access road. Then, perhaps your fear of heights would be mitigated by not having to SEE it from your feet the whole way. Then maybe you can tolerate the bugs for a bit… Something along those lines. Sounds like a sticky situation. I think going along would be fine, except that there is fear involved. That’s no good. Good luck! S

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On Sat, 05 Jun 2004 03:34:53 GMT, Doug Anderson – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -<ethelthelogremovet…@yahoo.com> wrote: >"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> writes: >> Hi everybody.  Well it looks like it is my turn to get some good advice from >> my chums here at ASM. >> A little background. >> It would be a huge understatement to say that I am not an outdoor person.  I >> have never, in my life enjoyed being outside.  I have vivid childhood >> recollections of spending a lot of time in the closet with a flashlight – >> partially to be as far away from my father as possible, and partially >> because I really liked it there. >> As a child I had a bicycle.  But it was more for transportation than >> recreation.  I have memories of myself on camping trips where I would be >> sitting in the camper reading magazines or books while everyone else was >> outside. >> A friend of mine once told me that the only way to get me out of the house >> would be to set it on fire.  I am more than happy spending DAYS inside >> without so much as exposing my big toe to the great outdoors. >> Got the picture? >> Now let’s take a look at my husband.  He is Mr. Outside.  When we are home >> in the beautiful State of Missouri, he constantly finds things to do >> outside.  Yardwork, working in the garden, you name it.  Hot or cold, humid >> or not – that boy is outside even if it is only sitting on the front porch >> in the evening drinking a beer.  He gets up early and is outside ALL day >> long. >> Needless to say our tastes differ when it comes to recreation.  Even though >> I am NOT a shopper, my greatest joy in life is going to the mall.  I can >> spend ALL DAY in the mall (and not buy anything I might add) where it is a >> pleasant 70 degrees, no bugs and lots of fun things to look at (especially >> the people).  My husband on the other hand, would rather have his thumbs cut >> off than spend more than 10 minutes there "getting what he needs" and then >> departing as quickly as possible. >> Ok, so you get the gist of where I am going with this. >> Here we are stuck in Colorado for the summer.  No I’m not happy about it and >> to tell the truth I think I would rather be in a maximum security prison for >> repeat offenders in Alabama, but I digress. >> DH, of course, wants to go hiking.  I, of course, don’t.  Because, not only >> do I despise the outdoors with every fiber of my being, but I am hate >> heights.  I once went with friends to the Grand Canyon and refused to get >> out of the car.  I won’t even go up into high rise buildings because I find >> that I get extremely anxious when I do. >> Naturally, hiking in Colorado involves walking along tiny bits of pathway >> that are usually no wider than 18 inches above a rather impressive drop of >> at least 200 – 300 feet straight down. Not to mention all the attendant joys >> such as heat, dehydration, bugs, blinding sunlight and the not-that-remote >> possibility of meeting up with a bear or cougar. >> Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up into >> the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I sweetly >> replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that". >> Hubby dear, sweetly reminded me that he willingly accompanies me to the mall >> when I simply cannot bear another day without it.  I sweetly remind him that >> nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at the mall, and I can’t remember >> the last time I got a mosquito bite there. >> Then I suggest in a very sincere (and non-sarcastic way) that he get one of >> his friends who enjoys hiking to go with him.  He replies that he wants to >> be with MEEEEEEE on his day off and wouldn’t enjoy it nearly as much with >> anyone else.  After all, I am his best friend (which is true), and we do >> everything together. >> Well, here I am feeling like the Grinch because I simply DON’T WANT TO >> GO!!!!!  I am practically begging him to go with someone (anyone) else, even >> a female for Chrissakes!  Just leave me the hell out of it.  Let me stay >> home in AIR CONDITIONED splendor with my computer and radio and blissfully >> enjoy the day the way I enjoy it best – INDOORS. >> Yes, Yes Yes, I know that it is a woman’s duty to obey her husband’s wishes. >> Yes, Yes, Yes, I know I preach on a daily basis to anyone who will listen >> how wives need to relent their own needs and desires and, in this case, >> fears and dislikes, on behalf of their husband. But do I really NEED to do >> this just to be a good wife? >> What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along with it >> even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten alive by >> gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns? >Unreasonable, no, (Hypocritical, yes, but that’s another issue!) no >one should have to do something they really detest. >On the other hand, it does seem like unless you figure out some >mutually enjoyable form of recreation, you’re begging for longer term >problems. >By the way, do you know that there have been a total of two deaths by >cougar attack in Colorado ever reported?  I bet more people have been >run over in mall parking lots!

No way, Doug. The media would have reported that! HAHA! –Brian

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"Auntie Em" <Auntie E…@thisisfake.com> writes: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi everybody.  Well it looks like it is my turn to get some good advice from > my chums here at ASM. > A little background. > It would be a huge understatement to say that I am not an outdoor person.  I > have never, in my life enjoyed being outside.  I have vivid childhood > recollections of spending a lot of time in the closet with a flashlight – > partially to be as far away from my father as possible, and partially > because I really liked it there. > As a child I had a bicycle.  But it was more for transportation than > recreation.  I have memories of myself on camping trips where I would be > sitting in the camper reading magazines or books while everyone else was > outside. > A friend of mine once told me that the only way to get me out of the house > would be to set it on fire.  I am more than happy spending DAYS inside > without so much as exposing my big toe to the great outdoors. > Got the picture? > Now let’s take a look at my husband.  He is Mr. Outside.  When we are home > in the beautiful State of Missouri, he constantly finds things to do > outside.  Yardwork, working in the garden, you name it.  Hot or cold, humid > or not – that boy is outside even if it is only sitting on the front porch > in the evening drinking a beer.  He gets up early and is outside ALL day > long. > Needless to say our tastes differ when it comes to recreation.  Even though > I am NOT a shopper, my greatest joy in life is going to the mall.  I can > spend ALL DAY in the mall (and not buy anything I might add) where it is a > pleasant 70 degrees, no bugs and lots of fun things to look at (especially > the people).  My husband on the other hand, would rather have his thumbs cut > off than spend more than 10 minutes there "getting what he needs" and then > departing as quickly as possible. > Ok, so you get the gist of where I am going with this. > Here we are stuck in Colorado for the summer.  No I’m not happy about it and > to tell the truth I think I would rather be in a maximum security prison for > repeat offenders in Alabama, but I digress. > DH, of course, wants to go hiking.  I, of course, don’t.  Because, not only > do I despise the outdoors with every fiber of my being, but I am hate > heights.  I once went with friends to the Grand Canyon and refused to get > out of the car.  I won’t even go up into high rise buildings because I find > that I get extremely anxious when I do. > Naturally, hiking in Colorado involves walking along tiny bits of pathway > that are usually no wider than 18 inches above a rather impressive drop of > at least 200 – 300 feet straight down. Not to mention all the attendant joys > such as heat, dehydration, bugs, blinding sunlight and the not-that-remote > possibility of meeting up with a bear or cougar. > Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up into > the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I sweetly > replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that". > Hubby dear, sweetly reminded me that he willingly accompanies me to the mall > when I simply cannot bear another day without it.  I sweetly remind him that > nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at the mall, and I can’t remember > the last time I got a mosquito bite there. > Then I suggest in a very sincere (and non-sarcastic way) that he get one of > his friends who enjoys hiking to go with him.  He replies that he wants to > be with MEEEEEEE on his day off and wouldn’t enjoy it nearly as much with > anyone else.  After all, I am his best friend (which is true), and we do > everything together. > Well, here I am feeling like the Grinch because I simply DON’T WANT TO > GO!!!!!  I am practically begging him to go with someone (anyone) else, even > a female for Chrissakes!  Just leave me the hell out of it.  Let me stay > home in AIR CONDITIONED splendor with my computer and radio and blissfully > enjoy the day the way I enjoy it best – INDOORS. > Yes, Yes Yes, I know that it is a woman’s duty to obey her husband’s wishes. > Yes, Yes, Yes, I know I preach on a daily basis to anyone who will listen > how wives need to relent their own needs and desires and, in this case, > fears and dislikes, on behalf of their husband. But do I really NEED to do > this just to be a good wife? > What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along with it > even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten alive by > gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns?

Unreasonable, no, (Hypocritical, yes, but that’s another issue!) no one should have to do something they really detest. On the other hand, it does seem like unless you figure out some mutually enjoyable form of recreation, you’re begging for longer term problems. By the way, do you know that there have been a total of two deaths by cougar attack in Colorado ever reported?  I bet more people have been run over in mall parking lots!

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Auntie Em wrote: > Hi everybody.  Well it looks like it is my turn to get some good advice from > my chums here at ASM. > A little background. > It would be a huge understatement to say that I am not an outdoor person. I > have never, in my life enjoyed being outside.  I have vivid childhood > recollections of spending a lot of time in the closet with a flashlight – > partially to be as far away from my father as possible, and partially > because I really liked it there. > As a child I had a bicycle.  But it was more for transportation than > recreation.  I have memories of myself on camping trips where I would be > sitting in the camper reading magazines or books while everyone else was > outside. > A friend of mine once told me that the only way to get me out of the house > would be to set it on fire.  I am more than happy spending DAYS inside > without so much as exposing my big toe to the great outdoors. > Got the picture? > Now let’s take a look at my husband.  He is Mr. Outside.  When we are home > in the beautiful State of Missouri, he constantly finds things to do > outside.  Yardwork, working in the garden, you name it.  Hot or cold, humid > or not – that boy is outside even if it is only sitting on the front porch > in the evening drinking a beer.  He gets up early and is outside ALL day > long. > Needless to say our tastes differ when it comes to recreation.  Even though > I am NOT a shopper, my greatest joy in life is going to the mall.  I can > spend ALL DAY in the mall (and not buy anything I might add) where it is a > pleasant 70 degrees, no bugs and lots of fun things to look at (especially > the people).  My husband on the other hand, would rather have his thumbs cut > off than spend more than 10 minutes there "getting what he needs" and then > departing as quickly as possible. > Ok, so you get the gist of where I am going with this. > Here we are stuck in Colorado for the summer.  No I’m not happy about it and > to tell the truth I think I would rather be in a maximum security prison for > repeat offenders in Alabama, but I digress. > DH, of course, wants to go hiking.  I, of course, don’t.  Because, not only > do I despise the outdoors with every fiber of my being, but I am hate > heights.  I once went with friends to the Grand Canyon and refused to get > out of the car.  I won’t even go up into high rise buildings because I find > that I get extremely anxious when I do. > Naturally, hiking in Colorado involves walking along tiny bits of pathway > that are usually no wider than 18 inches above a rather impressive drop of > at least 200 – 300 feet straight down. Not to mention all the attendant joys > such as heat, dehydration, bugs, blinding sunlight and the not-that-remote > possibility of meeting up with a bear or cougar. > Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up into > the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I sweetly > replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that". > Hubby dear, sweetly reminded me that he willingly accompanies me to the mall > when I simply cannot bear another day without it.  I sweetly remind him that > nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at the mall, and I can’t remember > the last time I got a mosquito bite there. > Then I suggest in a very sincere (and non-sarcastic way) that he get one of > his friends who enjoys hiking to go with him.  He replies that he wants to > be with MEEEEEEE on his day off and wouldn’t enjoy it nearly as much with > anyone else.  After all, I am his best friend (which is true), and we do > everything together. > Well, here I am feeling like the Grinch because I simply DON’T WANT TO > GO!!!!!  I am practically begging him to go with someone (anyone) else, even > a female for Chrissakes!  Just leave me the hell out of it.  Let me stay > home in AIR CONDITIONED splendor with my computer and radio and blissfully > enjoy the day the way I enjoy it best – INDOORS. > Yes, Yes Yes, I know that it is a woman’s duty to obey her husband’s wishes. > Yes, Yes, Yes, I know I preach on a daily basis to anyone who will listen > how wives need to relent their own needs and desires and, in this case, > fears and dislikes, on behalf of their husband. But do I really NEED to do > this just to be a good wife? > What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along with it > even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten alive by > gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns? > Gimme some input, gang…… Pleeeeeeeese. > Em

You seem to have made this into an all-or-nothing, black-or-white thing. Surely there is SOMETHING outside you would like to see or do.   Colorado doesn’t exclusively consist of 10,000 foot, precipitous drop offs, ya know!

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -Auntie Em wrote: > Hi everybody.  Well it looks like it is my turn to get some good > advice from my chums here at ASM. > A little background. > It would be a huge understatement to say that I am not an outdoor > person.  I have never, in my life enjoyed being outside.  I have > vivid childhood recollections of spending a lot of time in the closet > with a flashlight – partially to be as far away from my father as > possible, and partially because I really liked it there. > As a child I had a bicycle.  But it was more for transportation than > recreation.  I have memories of myself on camping trips where I would > be sitting in the camper reading magazines or books while everyone > else was outside. > A friend of mine once told me that the only way to get me out of the > house would be to set it on fire.  I am more than happy spending DAYS > inside without so much as exposing my big toe to the great outdoors. > Got the picture? > Now let’s take a look at my husband.  He is Mr. Outside.  When we are > home in the beautiful State of Missouri, he constantly finds things > to do outside.  Yardwork, working in the garden, you name it.  Hot or > cold, humid or not – that boy is outside even if it is only sitting > on the front porch in the evening drinking a beer.  He gets up early > and is outside ALL day long. > Needless to say our tastes differ when it comes to recreation.  Even > though I am NOT a shopper, my greatest joy in life is going to the > mall.  I can spend ALL DAY in the mall (and not buy anything I might > add) where it is a pleasant 70 degrees, no bugs and lots of fun > things to look at (especially the people).  My husband on the other > hand, would rather have his thumbs cut off than spend more than 10 > minutes there "getting what he needs" and then departing as quickly > as possible. > Ok, so you get the gist of where I am going with this. > Here we are stuck in Colorado for the summer.  No I’m not happy about > it and to tell the truth I think I would rather be in a maximum > security prison for repeat offenders in Alabama, but I digress. > DH, of course, wants to go hiking.  I, of course, don’t.  Because, > not only do I despise the outdoors with every fiber of my being, but > I am hate heights.  I once went with friends to the Grand Canyon and > refused to get out of the car.  I won’t even go up into high rise > buildings because I find that I get extremely anxious when I do. > Naturally, hiking in Colorado involves walking along tiny bits of > pathway that are usually no wider than 18 inches above a rather > impressive drop of at least 200 – 300 feet straight down. Not to > mention all the attendant joys such as heat, dehydration, bugs, > blinding sunlight and the not-that-remote possibility of meeting up > with a bear or cougar. > Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up > into the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I > sweetly replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that". > Hubby dear, sweetly reminded me that he willingly accompanies me to > the mall when I simply cannot bear another day without it.  I sweetly > remind him that nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at the mall, > and I can’t remember the last time I got a mosquito bite there. > Then I suggest in a very sincere (and non-sarcastic way) that he get > one of his friends who enjoys hiking to go with him.  He replies that > he wants to be with MEEEEEEE on his day off and wouldn’t enjoy it > nearly as much with anyone else.  After all, I am his best friend > (which is true), and we do everything together. > Well, here I am feeling like the Grinch because I simply DON’T WANT TO > GO!!!!!  I am practically begging him to go with someone (anyone) > else, even a female for Chrissakes!  Just leave me the hell out of > it.  Let me stay home in AIR CONDITIONED splendor with my computer > and radio and blissfully enjoy the day the way I enjoy it best – > INDOORS. > Yes, Yes Yes, I know that it is a woman’s duty to obey her husband’s > wishes. Yes, Yes, Yes, I know I preach on a daily basis to anyone who > will listen how wives need to relent their own needs and desires and, > in this case, fears and dislikes, on behalf of their husband. But do > I really NEED to do this just to be a good wife? > What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along > with it even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten > alive by gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns? > Gimme some input, gang…… Pleeeeeeeese.

Well, here’s something I can totally empathise with you, Em! I’m not an outdoors person and while I can stand heights in enclosed spaces like tall buildings and aeroplanes it scares me to death being on open towers or clifftops.There’s a sucking, pulling sensation that drags me towards the drop. So, I suggest you ask for a compromise where your husband finds a safe…wide… track and he takes various comforts along with you on your outing. I don’t know what he can do about the wild animal threat, though. Perhaps you are exaggerating the risk, a little? Also, I suggest you plan a treat for yourselves ahead of time that you would like for when you come home. I’m thinking a warm tub of water, bubbles, wine, chocolate and a good book – or a back scrub and massage from your lovely man who will be so pleased that you stepped out of your comfort zone to join him in something that he enjoys so much. Sorry, I’m not much help but I do sympathise and I enjoyed your post! Tai

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>Well, here I am feeling like the Grinch because I simply DON’T WANT TO >GO!!!!!  I am practically begging him to go with someone (anyone) else, even >a female for Chrissakes!  Just leave me the hell out of it.  Let me stay >home in AIR CONDITIONED splendor with my computer and radio and blissfully >enjoy the day the way I enjoy it best – INDOORS. >Yes, Yes Yes, I know that it is a woman’s duty to obey her husband’s wishes. >Yes, Yes, Yes, I know I preach on a daily basis to anyone who will listen >how wives need to relent their own needs and desires and, in this case, >fears and dislikes, on behalf of their husband. But do I really NEED to do >this just to be a good wife?

Well, as you probably remember, I don’t think it is a requisite for a woman to subjugate their desires to be a "good wife", so that isn’t the perspective I’d take. However, that said, I wonder if you can’t come up with a compromise here.  I can understand your being frightened of heights.  I don’t think, for a moment, that you should have to scare yourself.  But, surely there is some other place where you can go that doesn’t involve sheer drop-offs.  Have a picnic in a park.  Take a non-strenuous, safe stoll on a well-lit, well-marked path in a state park.  In other words, find something that, while you might not choose it as an activity for an afternoon, does not cause you anxiety. Sheila – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along with it >even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten alive by >gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns? >Gimme some input, gang…… Pleeeeeeeese. >Em >—— >GOT PDF? >Convert any document into PDF for $1 per 100 pages. >For more info email lett…@gobrainstorm.net.

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Hi everybody.  Well it looks like it is my turn to get some good advice from my chums here at ASM. A little background. It would be a huge understatement to say that I am not an outdoor person.  I have never, in my life enjoyed being outside.  I have vivid childhood recollections of spending a lot of time in the closet with a flashlight – partially to be as far away from my father as possible, and partially because I really liked it there. As a child I had a bicycle.  But it was more for transportation than recreation.  I have memories of myself on camping trips where I would be sitting in the camper reading magazines or books while everyone else was outside. A friend of mine once told me that the only way to get me out of the house would be to set it on fire.  I am more than happy spending DAYS inside without so much as exposing my big toe to the great outdoors. Got the picture? Now let’s take a look at my husband.  He is Mr. Outside.  When we are home in the beautiful State of Missouri, he constantly finds things to do outside.  Yardwork, working in the garden, you name it.  Hot or cold, humid or not – that boy is outside even if it is only sitting on the front porch in the evening drinking a beer.  He gets up early and is outside ALL day long. Needless to say our tastes differ when it comes to recreation.  Even though I am NOT a shopper, my greatest joy in life is going to the mall.  I can spend ALL DAY in the mall (and not buy anything I might add) where it is a pleasant 70 degrees, no bugs and lots of fun things to look at (especially the people).  My husband on the other hand, would rather have his thumbs cut off than spend more than 10 minutes there "getting what he needs" and then departing as quickly as possible. Ok, so you get the gist of where I am going with this. Here we are stuck in Colorado for the summer.  No I’m not happy about it and to tell the truth I think I would rather be in a maximum security prison for repeat offenders in Alabama, but I digress. DH, of course, wants to go hiking.  I, of course, don’t.  Because, not only do I despise the outdoors with every fiber of my being, but I am hate heights.  I once went with friends to the Grand Canyon and refused to get out of the car.  I won’t even go up into high rise buildings because I find that I get extremely anxious when I do. Naturally, hiking in Colorado involves walking along tiny bits of pathway that are usually no wider than 18 inches above a rather impressive drop of at least 200 – 300 feet straight down. Not to mention all the attendant joys such as heat, dehydration, bugs, blinding sunlight and the not-that-remote possibility of meeting up with a bear or cougar. Well, tonight hubby dear says to me….  "Do you think we could go up into the mountains this weekend [ostensibly for a hike]?"  To which I sweetly replied.  "Are you nuts?  I hate that". Hubby dear, sweetly reminded me that he willingly accompanies me to the mall when I simply cannot bear another day without it.  I sweetly remind him that nobody lately has been eaten by a cougar at the mall, and I can’t remember the last time I got a mosquito bite there. Then I suggest in a very sincere (and non-sarcastic way) that he get one of his friends who enjoys hiking to go with him.  He replies that he wants to be with MEEEEEEE on his day off and wouldn’t enjoy it nearly as much with anyone else.  After all, I am his best friend (which is true), and we do everything together. Well, here I am feeling like the Grinch because I simply DON’T WANT TO GO!!!!!  I am practically begging him to go with someone (anyone) else, even a female for Chrissakes!  Just leave me the hell out of it.  Let me stay home in AIR CONDITIONED splendor with my computer and radio and blissfully enjoy the day the way I enjoy it best – INDOORS. Yes, Yes Yes, I know that it is a woman’s duty to obey her husband’s wishes. Yes, Yes, Yes, I know I preach on a daily basis to anyone who will listen how wives need to relent their own needs and desires and, in this case, fears and dislikes, on behalf of their husband. But do I really NEED to do this just to be a good wife? What do you guys think?  Am I being unreasonable?  Should I go along with it even though I would rather die a thousand deaths and be eaten alive by gophers?  Or should I stick to my guns? Gimme some input, gang…… Pleeeeeeeese. Em —— GOT PDF? Convert any document into PDF for $1 per 100 pages. For more info email lett…@gobrainstorm.net.

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When I was in high school I started suffering panic attacks.   I wasn’t trying to be "naughty" and it was a very good high school, and I was a good student.  But I would be walking to an ordinary class and suddenly feel like the world was closing in on me.  I just *couldn’t* stand going to class.  It was the worst thing in the world.  It didn’t matter if it was classes I liked or not.  Nobody had ever told me what a panic attack was, and I didn’t learn to recognize what was happening, and cope with it, until years later. Increased discipline, cadet corps, a stronger father, or live ammunition exercises and ten hour walks wouldn’t have stopped what was happening to me. It took me years to find the right combination of coping mechanisms (diaghrammatic breathing, meditation, etc.) and medications to stop the anxiety attacks. Diane

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I hope he means that adolescents are protected from BP by something. Probably not testosterone since children are protected as well. I would be very suspicious if a child is diagnosed as bipolar. There seems to be a tendency to medicalise behavioural problems caused by a mixture of naughtiness, inadequate schools, and absent or weak fathers. It’s a lot easier to prescribe a pill than to start up a cadet corps for after school hours, with live ammunition exercises and ten hour walks at the weekend.

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Bipolar disorder involves marked changes in mood and energy. In most

adults with the illness, persistent states of extreme elation or – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – agitation accompanied by high energy are called mania. Persistent states of extreme sadness or irritability accompanied by low energy are called depression. However, the illness looks different in children than it does in adults.Children usually have an ongoing, continuous mood disturbance that is a mix of mania and depression. This rapid and severe cycling between moods produces chronic irritability and few clear periods of wellness between episodes. I’m sorry, my friend, but what the website is saying is: Children with Bipolar Disorder present symptoms of MIXED STATES Bipolar disorder, which is the most difficult type of Bipolar Disorder to treat. The existence of mania does not negate the symptoms of depression when they exist at the same time. What this means is that Childhood Bipolar often takes the form of the worst possible type of Bipolar Disorder.

You’ve got to remember that this website is trying to promote the idea of diagnosing children with BP. However BP is defined by symptoms. What is characteristic is mood swings. An "ongoing, continuous mood disturbance" is not typical of BP. It is very hard to swallow that children present with the worst and most intractable form of BP, when some authorities deny that they have BP at all. It is true that you can have rapid cycling BP in adults, and maybe also mixed states, but these are not common. It may be that we can pick up children who will go on to develop BP in later life, because they have mood or behavioural problems which are short of depression and mania, and are not periodic. However it is wrong to say that such children have BP. They don’t have delusions, they don’t have excessive energy, they don’t attempt suicide or stay in bed all day. It doesn’t mean anything to say "X is BP but doesn’t have any symptoms", because we don’t know what BP is, except by symptoms. Irritiability is a symptom of mania, but even "chronic irritiability" is not sufficient to diagnose mania. The danger is that perfectly healthy children who have behavioural problems will be diagnosed as BP and drugged up when really the irritation is caused by factors such as boring lessons, lack of physical activity, lack of freedom to play without adult supervision.

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I just clicked on MSN and there was this article.  I haven’t even read it yet.  Just a coincidence that I found it seconds after reading this post. c

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m not trying to extrapolate an entire population’s experience from my son’s – if it came through that way I apologize and I will try to watch my writing more closely. The thing is, there’s always some truth in every fad. For instance in Britian it became very fashionable to have food allergies. Some psychologist hid foods a group of patients claimed to be allergic to in soup, and none of them suffered any ill effects. However this doesn’t mean that, for a small group of people, allergies are very real and even life-threatening. However, through my son’s experience I have met other children who carry the BP dx.  I don’t believe all of them are BP.  I believe some are ADD/ADHD (a controversy of it’s own, to be sure), some are abused, and some are acting out for reasons unknown. There are some, though, who I believe to be bipolar – although I will admit they are the minority…perhaps 20 – 25% of those of my acquaintance. Attention-deficit disorder is running its natural course. I fear that childhood BP is the next big thing. If an 80-year old man presents with memory loss, lack of motivation, but social skills still relatively intact, no doctor would have much problem in diagnosing Alzheimer’s. If a ten year old presents with the same symptoms, any doctor with any sense would look extremely carefully, ask about drugs, send him for brain scans, etc. Only after everything else had been eliminated would he say that, contrary to common experience, a juvenile had Alzheimer’s. Now if the ten-year old has memory loss, but not lack of motivation, i.e. some similarity to Alzheimer’s but not all the symptoms, how much more reluctant should we be to diagnose "juvenile onset Alzheimer’s"? However this seems to be the case with childhood BP. The other thing that worries me is that, having taken psychiatric medications, I know that the popular press image of magic pills is way off the mark. Meds are a last resort, only if you can’t live an independent life without them. They have all sorts of physical side effects, but they also have mental side effects. It’s very hard to work on medication, life can seem a struggle, you can lose interest in food and sex. Debate is important and we need dissension and caution to make sure we don’t go blithely down the easy path in the battle to answer this question – or, indeed, any question.  I appreciate your postings, and while I may not agree with them I respect your positions and opinions and how you reach them and I appreciate that you make me think. Thanks. I think we need to be careful that diagnosis of BP doesn’t become an excuse for not meeting the real needs of the child. The problem of couse is that full-time mothers, small class sizes and plenty of individual attention at school, somewhere safe to play without adult supervision, are all very expensive things to provide. If you’re an investment banker then this advice makes sense, but for most people you might as well recommend a vacation on the moon. On the other hand, in a country as rich as the United States, all these things could be a reality for most children, if there was the political will to make it so.

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Hi Malcolm.  Check out CJ’s description of her son’s behaviour under the header "*may trigger* Re: Article in Mar 8, 2004 "New York" mag ".  It sounds like psychosis to me (I’ve been there too). The poor kid.

I’ve read it and I agree with you. There’s obviously something genuinely wrong and this isn’t a case of designer diagnosis.

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I’m not trying to extrapolate an entire population’s experience from my

son’s – if it came through that way I apologize and I will try to watch my writing more closely.

The thing is, there’s always some truth in every fad. For instance in Britian it became very fashionable to have food allergies. Some psychologist hid foods a group of patients claimed to be allergic to in soup, and none of them suffered any ill effects. However this doesn’t mean that, for a small group of people, allergies are very real and even life-threatening. However, through my son’s experience I have met other children who carry the BP dx.  I don’t believe all of them are BP.  I believe some are ADD/ADHD (a controversy of it’s own, to be sure), some are abused, and some are acting out for reasons unknown. There are some, though, who I believe to be bipolar – although I will admit they are the minority…perhaps 20 – 25% of those of my acquaintance.

Attention-deficit disorder is running its natural course. I fear that childhood BP is the next big thing. If an 80-year old man presents with memory loss, lack of motivation, but social skills still relatively intact, no doctor would have much problem in diagnosing Alzheimer’s. If a ten year old presents with the same symptoms, any doctor with any sense would look extremely carefully, ask about drugs, send him for brain scans, etc. Only after everything else had been eliminated would he say that, contrary to common experience, a juvenile had Alzheimer’s. Now if the ten-year old has memory loss, but not lack of motivation, i.e. some similarity to Alzheimer’s but not all the symptoms, how much more reluctant should we be to diagnose "juvenile onset Alzheimer’s"? However this seems to be the case with childhood BP. The other thing that worries me is that, having taken psychiatric medications, I know that the popular press image of magic pills is way off the mark. Meds are a last resort, only if you can’t live an independent life without them. They have all sorts of physical side effects, but they also have mental side effects. It’s very hard to work on medication, life can seem a struggle, you can lose interest in food and sex. Debate is important and we need dissension and caution to make sure we don’t go blithely down the easy path in the battle to answer this question – or, indeed, any question.  I appreciate your postings, and while I may not agree with them I respect your positions and opinions and how you reach them and I appreciate that you make me think.

Thanks. I think we need to be careful that diagnosis of BP doesn’t become an excuse for not meeting the real needs of the child. The problem of couse is that full-time mothers, small class sizes and plenty of individual attention at school, somewhere safe to play without adult supervision, are all very expensive things to provide. If you’re an investment banker then this advice makes sense, but for most people you might as well recommend a vacation on the moon. On the other hand, in a country as rich as the United States, all these things could be a reality for most children, if there was the political will to make it so.

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Let’s see – my son was psychotic and attempted suicide twice – once was a serious attempt. Kids DO exhibit clear symptoms of mental illnesses. Your son’s case is very important to you, but you can’t make a general rule from one person. How are you using the term "psychotic"? It’s used in different ways, and abused in the mass media. It is not the same as "bipolar" or "schizophrenic".

Hi Malcolm.  Check out CJ’s description of her son’s behaviour under the header "*may trigger* Re: Article in Mar 8, 2004 "New York" mag ".  It sounds like psychosis to me (I’ve been there too).  The poor kid. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – What we are seeing is not a few anomalous cases of early-onset BP, which your son might be, but an attempt to label a spectrum of moody behaviour as "BP", when it isn’t clear that it has much in common with bipolar illness, and it isn’t clear whether the children diagnosed with it will go on to be bipolar adults.

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I’m not trying to extrapolate an entire population’s experience from my son’s – if it came through that way I apologize and I will try to watch my writing more closely. However, through my son’s experience I have met other children who carry the BP dx.  I don’t believe all of them are BP.  I believe some are ADD/ADHD (a controversy of it’s own, to be sure), some are abused, and some are acting out for reasons unknown.  There are some, though, who I believe to be bipolar – although I will admit they are the minority…perhaps 20 – 25% of those of my acquaintance. I agree that the dx runs the risk of being overused.  It is not the first to be that way, however.  Unfortunately any overuse of the dx makes it harder for those who genuinely suffer from the disease to be taken seriously – in this I agree as well. Many illnesses, both psychiatric and organic, undergo controversy.  The thread on diabetes has indicated that doctors are debating what an appropriate fasting blood sugar is.  There is argument in the medical community about what tests and medications are appropriate for thyroid disease, which should be of interest to anyone taking lithium (almost 1/3 of people taking lithium develop thyroid problems).  Whether or not to perform a hysterectomy, what to do about BPH, whether or not to pin a broken bone, what disease is presenting when there are overlapping symptoms – medical science really isn’t light years ahead of psychiatry.  Conservatively, 44,000 deaths annually are due to medical mistakes in the United States. It’s far more difficult to quantify psychiatric mistakes leading to death, especially since suicide is a known high risk of the patients.  Is the suicide the fault of the doctor or the whim of the patient?  It’s impossible to know. You are absolutely right in your statement that there is no way to know if the children will go on to be bipolar adults.  There are no long term studies completed yet because there hasn’t been a "long term."  NIH/NIMH and many academic facilities are studying COBP and hopefully they will be able to quantify that which we can’t know at this time. I think you will find that I agree with you on many points.  You are correct in saying that my son’s case is important to me, but I also base my opinions on extensive research and interviews with other BP adults where they indicate they began exhibiting BP-like behaviors at very young ages and then went on to develop full blown BP, some in their teenage years. There is much we don’t know – I will grant that to anyone – not only for children but also for adults.  We don’t know for sure how half, if not more, of our medications work.  I am so sick of reading "The pharmokinetic of XXX Debate is important and we need dissension and caution to make sure we don’t go blithely down the easy path in the battle to answer this question – or, indeed, any question.  I appreciate your postings, and while I may not agree with them I respect your positions and opinions and how you reach them and I appreciate that you make me think. — CJ :) "Multiple exclamation marks are a sure sign of a diseased mind." ~~Terry Pratchett – Eric

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Let’s see – my son was psychotic and attempted suicide twice – once was a serious attempt. Kids DO exhibit clear symptoms of mental illnesses. Your son’s case is very important to you, but you can’t make a general rule from one person. How are you using the term "psychotic"? It’s used in different ways, and abused in the mass media. It is not the same as "bipolar" or "schizophrenic". What we are seeing is not a few anomalous cases of early-onset BP, which your son might be, but an attempt to label a spectrum of moody behaviour as "BP", when it isn’t clear that it has much in common with bipolar illness, and it isn’t clear whether the children diagnosed with it will go on to be bipolar adults.

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Let’s see – my son was psychotic and attempted suicide twice – once was a serious attempt. Kids DO exhibit clear symptoms of mental illnesses.

Your son’s case is very important to you, but you can’t make a general rule from one person. How are you using the term "psychotic"? It’s used in different ways, and abused in the mass media. It is not the same as "bipolar" or "schizophrenic". What we are seeing is not a few anomalous cases of early-onset BP, which your son might be, but an attempt to label a spectrum of moody behaviour as "BP", when it isn’t clear that it has much in common with bipolar illness, and it isn’t clear whether the children diagnosed with it will go on to be bipolar adults.

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Malcolm said… However, the illness looks different in children than it does in adults. Children usually have an ongoing, continuous mood disturbance that is a mix of mania and depression. This rapid and severe cycling between moods produces chronic irritability and few clear periods of wellness between episodes.

Jeez, that’s a perfect description of how I am now. But my moods have darkened as I have gotten older. I didn’t start getting extremely irritable until my early 20’s. Before that I was mostly just bewildered, confused, terrified and paranoid. http://www.bpkids.org/learning/about.htm This website is trying to promote diagnosis of BP in children, yet they admit that the childhood symptoms are different. This is as good as saying that children don’t get BP (it may be that we can pick up symtpoms in childhood which will develop into BP later, that’s a different matter). I don’t think anyone knows why children are protected from both manic depression and schizophrenia. Presumably it has something to do with sexual maturity.

But that is not entirely true. Children may have a lower incidence of BP and schiz, but obviously both are known to occur. As Ralph pointed out, BP that is recognized in children is a rather severe type. The same is true for childhood schizophrenia. It is rare, but very serious when it occurs. And let’s not forget that maturity brings about many changes and not just sexual ones. For example, testosterone may go way up, but growth hormone goes down.

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Let’s see – my son was psychotic and attempted suicide twice – once was a serious attempt. Kids DO exhibit clear symptoms of mental illnesses. — CJ :) "When you’re a god you don’t have to have reasons." ~~Terry Pratchett – Mort

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Bipolar disorder involves marked changes in mood and energy. In most adults with the illness, persistent states of extreme elation or agitation accompanied by high energy are called mania. Persistent states of extreme sadness or irritability accompanied by low energy are called depression. However, the illness looks different in children than it does in adults.Children usually have an ongoing, continuous mood disturbance that is a mix of mania and depression. This rapid and severe cycling between moods produces chronic irritability and few clear periods of wellness between episodes. I’m sorry, my friend, but what the website is saying is: Children with Bipolar Disorder present symptoms of MIXED STATES Bipolar disorder, which is the most difficult type of Bipolar Disorder to treat. The existence of mania does not negate the symptoms of depression when they exist at the same time. What this means is that Childhood Bipolar often takes the form of the worst possible type of Bipolar Disorder. You’ve got to remember that this website is trying to promote the idea of diagnosing children with BP. However BP is defined by symptoms. What is characteristic is mood swings. An "ongoing, continuous mood disturbance" is not typical of BP. It is very hard to swallow that children present with the worst and most intractable form of BP, when some authorities deny that they have BP at all. It is true that you can have rapid cycling BP in adults, and maybe also mixed states, but these are not common. It may be that we can pick up children who will go on to develop BP in later life, because they have mood or behavioural problems which are short of depression and mania, and are not periodic. However it is wrong to say that such children have BP. They don’t have delusions, they don’t have excessive energy, they don’t attempt suicide or stay in bed all day. It doesn’t mean anything to say "X is BP but doesn’t have any symptoms", because we don’t know what BP is, except by symptoms. Irritiability is a symptom of mania, but even "chronic irritiability" is not sufficient to diagnose mania. The danger is that perfectly healthy children who have behavioural problems will be diagnosed as BP and drugged up when really the irritation is caused by factors such as boring lessons, lack of physical activity, lack of freedom to play without adult supervision.

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Thank you Lester and Nancy.  This was a terrific article.  I liked that it seemed to discuss different levels of bipolarity, not just the most severe cases.  There are levels.  Different people are able to function differently.  I’m looking forward to the time when bipolarity is better defined, and therefore more treatable. Diane

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – etched permanently into the ether: There’s an article in New York about Bipolar.  Cover article…..worth a read. Lester This might help everyone access the article: http://www.newyorkmetro.com/ HTH, Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

http://www.sing365.com/music/lyric.nsf/Knocking-’Round-the-Zoo-lyrics…

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Why would adolescents be protected from BP?

Here’s a quote from a website. What are the symptoms of bipolar disorder in children? Bipolar disorder involves marked changes in mood and energy. In most adults with the illness, persistent states of extreme elation or agitation accompanied by high energy are called mania. Persistent states of extreme sadness or irritability accompanied by low energy are called depression. However, the illness looks different in children than it does in adults. Children usually have an ongoing, continuous mood disturbance that is a mix of mania and depression. This rapid and severe cycling between moods produces chronic irritability and few clear periods of wellness between episodes. http://www.bpkids.org/learning/about.htm This website is trying to promote diagnosis of BP in children, yet they admit that the childhood symptoms are different. This is as good as saying that children don’t get BP (it may be that we can pick up symtpoms in childhood which will develop into BP later, that’s a different matter). I don’t think anyone knows why children are protected from both manic depression and schizophrenia. Presumably it has something to do with sexual maturity.

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Malcolm said… I hope he means that adolescents are protected from BP by something. Probably not testosterone since children are protected as well. I would be very suspicious if a child is diagnosed as bipolar. There seems to be a tendency to medicalise behavioural problems caused by a mixture of naughtiness, inadequate schools, and absent or weak fathers. It’s a lot easier to prescribe a pill than to start up a cadet corps for after school hours, with live ammunition exercises and ten hour walks at the weekend.

Why would adolescents be protected from BP? I remember plainly that whatever it is that is afflicting me started at about 14 and quickly got worse. Even before that, I was insecure, worried a lot, and got into more than my share of trouble for being hyperactive and doing stunts that others didn’t find particularly funny. It has been a daily battle for my sanity ever since.

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Thank you, Ralph.  I appreciate your good wishes. Maybe you’ve hit the nail on the head – I never was sure if my parents loved me or not, so I was going to punish them for that. Thanks for the insight. — CJ :) "If you ignore the rules people will – half the time – quietly rewrite them so they don’t apply to you." ~~Terry Pratchett – Equal Rites

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I am so happy to hear that things have gotten better for both you and your son. I believe that my father was an undiagnosed Bipolar. However, no one in my immediate family knew anything about manic-depression when I was growing up. My mother actually told me that she thought I was possessed by a demon and once she called me the anti-Christ. I was lucky in one respect. My parents loved me, and while they both made mistakes; they loved me and I knew it. My parents also gave me a very strong sense of right and wrong. Now, I’m not saying that I never did anything wrong, but it did keep my behavior from getting too bizarre. C.J. I really am happy that things are better for you and your son. I wish you both the very best. Hugs from the serial hugger, Ralph No – he means that the normal rise in aggression in male puberty compounds the problems with bipolar disorder. My son was psychotic and violent.  "Discipline" did no good – I suppose it’s hard to be disciplined when you see people coming after you and sticking needles and pins all over your body.  Probably not to easy when you are violent enough to throw a recliner across a room. There is no doubt in my mind that my child is bipolar.  I am like Ralph, except that I didn’t have the self control he describes.  I began exhibiting inappropriate sexual behavior at nine years old, and other anti-social behavior soon followed.  I was an alcoholic and a drug addict by the time I was 15.  I was called "moody," "rebellious," "self destructive" – my stepfather was a career military man who tried desperately to rein me in – didn’t work. I am grateful that my son doesn’t have to go through that.  He has ridden out most of the storm and he is doing very well on 1/3 of the medication he took when he was at his worst.  I will never lose the images of my 11 year old son trying to climb into my lap screaming that Dr. Monochromatic (his most common hallucination) was coming to get him.  I will never forget him standing in the kitchen holding a knife to his stomach and screaming he would stab himself – and then slicing my hand open without even realizing it.  Mostly I will never forget watching the police take him down when he was so out of touch with reality that he just went, well, psychotic. It was several years of hell, but he’s doing very well now.  He’s working on eliminating the last psychological vestiges of those days.  He’s a junior in high school and he works with the physically disabled children in his high school as well as volunteering with Special Olympics.  He has developed a compassion and a set of skills that I don’t believe he would have had otherwise.  I hate what he had to go through to get them, but I am reminded of what a BP member of my family told me when I was 17 and first diagnosed – "Manic depression gives as much as it takes away for many people who have it – the trick is to reach inside past the hell to find the heaven, and allow that heaven to get you through the entire ride."  It took me a long time to do that, and I believe it was because I didn’t accept treatment until my mid 20s and I had developed addictions, etc…, that I had to break first.  Lord knows I’m not nearly as good at it as my aunt was, but I try. I hope my son is able to do it better than I can.

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No – he means that the normal rise in aggression in male puberty compounds the problems with bipolar disorder. My son was psychotic and violent.  "Discipline" did no good – I suppose it’s hard to be disciplined when you see people coming after you and sticking needles and pins all over your body.  Probably not to easy when you are violent enough to throw a recliner across a room. There is no doubt in my mind that my child is bipolar.  I am like Ralph, except that I didn’t have the self control he describes.  I began exhibiting inappropriate sexual behavior at nine years old, and other anti-social behavior soon followed.  I was an alcoholic and a drug addict by the time I was 15.  I was called "moody," "rebellious," "self destructive" – my stepfather was a career military man who tried desperately to rein me in – didn’t work. I am grateful that my son doesn’t have to go through that.  He has ridden out most of the storm and he is doing very well on 1/3 of the medication he took when he was at his worst.  I will never lose the images of my 11 year old son trying to climb into my lap screaming that Dr. Monochromatic (his most common hallucination) was coming to get him.  I will never forget him standing in the kitchen holding a knife to his stomach and screaming he would stab himself – and then slicing my hand open without even realizing it.  Mostly I will never forget watching the police take him down when he was so out of touch with reality that he just went, well, psychotic. It was several years of hell, but he’s doing very well now.  He’s working on eliminating the last psychological vestiges of those days.  He’s a junior in high school and he works with the physically disabled children in his high school as well as volunteering with Special Olympics.  He has developed a compassion and a set of skills that I don’t believe he would have had otherwise.  I hate what he had to go through to get them, but I am reminded of what a BP member of my family told me when I was 17 and first diagnosed – "Manic depression gives as much as it takes away for many people who have it – the trick is to reach inside past the hell to find the heaven, and allow that heaven to get you through the entire ride."  It took me a long time to do that, and I believe it was because I didn’t accept treatment until my mid 20s and I had developed addictions, etc…, that I had to break first.  Lord knows I’m not nearly as good at it as my aunt was, but I try. I hope my son is able to do it better than I can. — CJ :) "When you’re a god you don’t have to have reasons." ~~Terry Pratchett – Mort

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – However, I have seen children diagnosed as BP who don’t strike me as BP.  I have also seen pdocs struggle with the COBP dx since the dx is a lifetime and the medications are so powerful – and most kids, especially boys, require antipsychotics. To quote my doctor, "Testosterone in puberty is Bipolar Disorder’s worst enemy."  I tell anyone who doubts it to look at the walls I haven’t been able to fix yet. I hope he means that adolescents are protected from BP by something. Probably not testosterone since children are protected as well. I would be very suspicious if a child is diagnosed as bipolar. There seems to be a tendency to medicalise behavioural problems caused by a mixture of naughtiness, inadequate schools, and absent or weak fathers. It’s a lot easier to prescribe a pill than to start up a cadet corps for after school hours, with live ammunition exercises and ten hour walks at the weekend.

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However, I have seen children diagnosed as BP who don’t strike me as BP.  I have also seen pdocs struggle with the COBP dx since the dx is a lifetime and the medications are so powerful – and most kids, especially boys, require antipsychotics. To quote my doctor, "Testosterone in puberty is Bipolar Disorder’s worst

enemy."  I tell anyone who doubts it to look at the walls I haven’t been able to fix yet.

I hope he means that adolescents are protected from BP by something. Probably not testosterone since children are protected as well. I would be very suspicious if a child is diagnosed as bipolar. There seems to be a tendency to medicalise behavioural problems caused by a mixture of naughtiness, inadequate schools, and absent or weak fathers. It’s a lot easier to prescribe a pill than to start up a cadet corps for after school hours, with live ammunition exercises and ten hour walks at the weekend.

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I figure the attention will pass.  Diseases become "fashionable and controversial" and then they pass into obscurity again with people going, "Oh yeah – I remember something I read about that."  These things cycle worse than we do. I agree that it does lead to diagnostic problems, unfortunately.  The widening of the diagnostic criteria is a double edged sword in that it will have people running around with medications who probably don’t need them as extensively as they think.  Some do and will – don’t get me wrong. My son was diagnosed before the whole COBP bandwagon started moving through town, and since I can personally identify at least four BPI candidates in two generations of my family – not including myself – I am confident in his diagnosis. However, I have seen children diagnosed as BP who don’t strike me as BP.  I have also seen pdocs struggle with the COBP dx since the dx is a lifetime and the medications are so powerful – and most kids, especially boys, require antipsychotics. To quote my doctor, "Testosterone in puberty is Bipolar Disorder’s worst enemy."  I tell anyone who doubts it to look at the walls I haven’t been able to fix yet. I have also seen children dx’d as ADHD and react violently to ritalin, etc….and their parents refuse to consider any other diagnosis because ADHD doesn’t have much of a stigma anymore. ‘Tis a quandry. I think that those of us who are serial spenders, serial adulterers (that was my personal favorite), serial runaways, serial anythingers, etc…, and can get to help will more than likely get help and maybe – just maybe – the spotlight will help those who are currently marginalized from assistance get there. I know – my clouds are getting all rosy-edged.  All I can say is that I hope so.  Too many fall through the cracks and I don’t want to see anyone, adult or child, not get the help they need.  As illnesses go, this one is fairly manageble for most, and it breaks my heart to see a single person – especially a child – suffer. — CJ :) "When you’re a god you don’t have to have reasons." ~~Terry Pratchett – Mort

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I guess that’s why I should be glad my Bipolar diagnosis was changed to "Schizoaffective".  If you look at the DSM definition of Schizoaffective on schizoaffective.org you see that I’m probably "Bipolar Type" of Schizoaffective, so I can still call myself Bipolar, while maintaining that I have a more serious condition than just "Mild Bipolar" described in the article. -Rob This might help everyone access the article: http://www.newyorkmetro.com/  Wow. The danger with this is that if people who have mild mood swings start describing themselves as BP then where does that leave those of us who really do need medical help? On the other hand if it becomes fashionable then that might remove some of the stigma. So I’m in two minds about it.

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This might help everyone access the article: http://www.newyorkmetro.com/

 Wow. The danger with this is that if people who have mild mood swings start describing themselves as BP then where does that leave those of us who really do need medical help? On the other hand if it becomes fashionable then that might remove some of the stigma. So I’m in two minds about it.

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I guess that’s why I should be glad my Bipolar diagnosis was changed to "Schizoaffective".  If you look at the DSM definition of Schizoaffective on schizoaffective.org you see that I’m probably "Bipolar Type" of Schizoaffective, so I can still call myself Bipolar, while maintaining that I have a more serious condition than just "Mild Bipolar" described in the article. -Rob

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – This might help everyone access the article: http://www.newyorkmetro.com/  Wow. The danger with this is that if people who have mild mood swings start describing themselves as BP then where does that leave those of us who really do need medical help? On the other hand if it becomes fashionable then that might remove some of the stigma. So I’m in two minds about it.

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permanently into the ether: There’s an article in New York about Bipolar.  Cover article…..worth a read. Lester

This might help everyone access the article: http://www.newyorkmetro.com/ HTH, Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor) http://www.sing365.com/music/lyric.nsf/Knocking-’Round-the-Zoo-lyrics…

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There’s an article in New York about Bipolar.  Cover article…..worth a read. Lester — This mailbox protected from junk email by Matador from MailFrontier, Inc. http://info.mailfrontier.com

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Can anyone offer feedback– Is Klonopin as sedating as Xanax can be? Does anyone take Klonopin and also use Xanax for possible break through anxiety and/or panic? What has been your experience with either of these drugs? Can I take Klonopin for a few months and see if this anxiety will go back into remission or would it be wise just to take the Xanax regularly?  It is really difficult for me to take Xanax when I am feeling ok (at home, gym etc.).

Hello Ashley, I have used xanax a lot in the past for breakthrough anxiety attacks. I used to find it very useful for that, especially when i was waiting for another medication to stsrt working such as anafranil or zoloft. However, this time the xanax was not as effective for me as this relapse brought on cyclical panic attacks that wouldend and imediatley restart.  I found i had to take a lot of xanax and the anxiety attacks would breakthrough anyway.  The doctor tried me on klonopin and the one dose taken at the same time daily carried me through the whole day and night. In a stable condition, i am able to reduce the dosage considerably. Granted this medication is a temporary one for me as I find the right dose of my ssri, but the klonopin has been a life saver, as it helps me have a decent day.  I prefer it to xanax now, although i have never triedthe xanax xr and have heard the effects are similar to klonopin. AD

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Does anyone take Klonopin and also use Xanax for possible break through anxiety and/or panic?

I take 0.5 mg of Klonopin 3 times a day.  When I have a panic attack, I take 1.0 mg of Xanax.  Works well.

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Is Klonopin as sedating as Xanax can be?

It’s an individual thing. Valium, for instance, didn’t make me tired whereas Xanax does (BTW: Xanax has a more rapid onset of action than Valium). Does anyone take Klonopin and also use Xanax for possible break through anxiety and/or panic?

Yes, that can be done. However, as Xanax helps you, it miht be a good idea to switch to the XR version which you have to take only once every 24 hours and have some *regular* Xanax to take *as needed* for breakthrough anxiety etc. What has been your experience with either of these drugs?

Both are excellent anxiolytics. Xanax can have a slight antidepressant effect while Klonopin can exacerbate exisiting depression and those already suffering from depression will have to take an antidperessant along with it. Can I take Klonopin for a few months and see if this anxiety will go back into remission or would it be wise just to take the Xanax regularly?  It is really difficult for me to take Xanax when I am feeling ok (at home, gym etc.).

Both are possibilities although I would advocate a low dose of Xanax XR to see what that gets you. I am considering using an SSRI as a last course of action but because I have had bad experiences with many of them in the past and I am not really depressed (in so much as this anxiety is depressing). After many years off SSRIs, I am reluctant to start SSRIs again, although I have read about Lexapro and am considring trying this drug.

If anxiety is the primary problem a benzo is the first line of treatment IMO. Of course they cause dependency which means that after a while of being on a regular dose you shouldn’t stop taking them suddenly but only by way of a slow taper to avoid or minimize withdrawal symptoms. This goes for most antidepressants as well. OTOH antidepressants are more helpful with *anticipatory anxiety* although I feel that by far the best treatment for AA is therapy (cognitive behavioural therapy, CBT). Philip

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I have very limited panic attacks but am suffering greatly from anticipatory anxiety which is making me very uptight and agoraphobic to a small degree.  I am comfortable as long as I am in my neighborhood but often fear being too far away from home.  I have traveled twice(coast to coast)in the last two months due to the holidays, both times I used Xanax: bigger dosage for travel regularly for a week due to holiday stresses. I am prescribed .5 mg Xanax and I take that on an "as needed" basis as opposed to every 3 to 4 hours.  I do notice that even though I feel slight effects immediately (I take it sublingual when I need), I feel my anxiety is lessened about 2 hours after my dosage and even more so after the second dosage.  Perhaps I need as much as 1 mg when I am under stressful situations? I notice a reluctance to take my Xanax every 3 to 4 hours but I also notice I am reluctant to do things I otherwise enjoyed prior to my panic disorder starting up again after several years. I tried Valium because I read it had a quicker onset time for taking on an "as needed basis" but it was not as effective as Xanax is for me.  I generally felt sedated physically but it was not helpful for my mental anxiety, if that makes sense. I am thinking that I may try Klonopin on a regular basis.  I am trying to regain my life and abate my fear of otherwise normal activities.  I think Xanax is a phenomenal drug for anxiety and panic but because I am not taking every three to four hours it isn’t really helping me stabilize my anxiety and agoraphobia.  I have given up caffeine totally as well as chocolate and anything remotely stimulating to the CNS. Can anyone offer feedback– Is Klonopin as sedating as Xanax can be? Does anyone take Klonopin and also use Xanax for possible break through anxiety and/or panic? What has been your experience with either of these drugs? Can I take Klonopin for a few months and see if this anxiety will go back into remission or would it be wise just to take the Xanax regularly?  It is really difficult for me to take Xanax when I am feeling ok (at home, gym etc.). I am considering using an SSRI as a last course of action but because I have had bad experiences with many of them in the past and I am not really depressed (in so much as this anxiety is depressing). After many years off SSRIs, I am reluctant to start SSRIs again, although I have read about Lexapro and am considring trying this drug.

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Hi Ronnie  Yes I have had that ill feeling many times. I do have panic and anxiety attacks but this feeling is different. when I get this I feel very fatigued and sick to my stomach. Its mostly in the morning when I get up and before I take my xanax. Once I take the half pill it goes away. Is this the feeling you have also. I dont get it every day. Just every now and then. I also have had the thyroid tests done and all the bloodwork,EKG,echo, stress echo and every other test you can imagine and they were all normal. I take 1/2 of a .25 of xanax every day. If my anxiety gets really bad or I am having a setback sometimes I take another half . If the xanax makes you feel normal and lets you be able to enjoy life without feeling anxious and sick all the time then I would take it. Thats what I do anymore. I used to fight taking it when I first started on it but its so nice to be able to enjoy life that I dont even worry anymore. I just take it. If you are having rebound anxiety on the amount that you are taking you might ask your doctor about xanax XR. I have never tried it but I have seen a few posts on here from people that do take it and they say it works really well at stopping the rebound anxiety. It might be worth talking to your doctor about it. I do hope you start feeling better soon. Eight years is a long time to put up with  daily anxiety. I would say you have been very patient. Deb – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Well after spending $600 of my own money on blood test (I only have major medical) and having a complete thyroid panel come back normal a CBC come back normal a cortisol test come back normal and the only thing I am waiting on is my testosterone to come back I am fine. I even had my prostate checked which was normal. I have posted on here before. I came off a small ammount of Xanax .25 twice a day for a couple of months just to see waht was going on. I did have Grave’s disease and had RAI 8 years ago and I am on Armour thyroid replacement which is the only thing that makes me feel half way normal. I tried 6 docs while on synthroid for the first 4 years and even had the best endocrine doc in town tell me to move to a warmer climate before I got fad up and went on armour through a family doc. and mythyroid is always normal. My problem is as long as I can remeber I have had anxiety all day long. Even before my thyroid. It has gotten worse with age (now 37) and with the thyroid replacement speeding me up but it is the only type thyroid med I can take. I have jumped through all the hoops for 8 years now. I have tried the prozacs and paxils which all just make me feel blah. As I have said before, the only thing that turns me around and makes life worth living is xanax. I can take half a .25 (equal to .12)  and feel like a normal person for about 5 hours. I then feel the anxiety come back. I found if I take a full .25 the rebound anxiety after 5 hours is harder to overcome. I am going to take the .12 at 1 pm and maybe 6 pm (depending on how I am feeling and call it life. I have been so patient through all this crap for 8 years and done the right thing and made sure the xanax was not acting as a bandaid for another underlying problem but I think that I really need this stuff to survive and live a happy life due to my condition. I really do not have panic attacks just ill all day and cannnot get un ill. The only other thing that would work was a couple of beers at night. Does anyone else her have just a feeling of being ill all day without the panic attacks so to speak. I

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What dose of the XR would give you the constant release in relation to the .12 I am taking now? How long does it last?

Hi Ronnie, In regards to dosage your psychiatrist will help you figure out the appropriate dose in relation to what you are taking now. Here is a link to the site regarding facts about the xr.  You might want to print it out and take it with you to the psychiatrist to show him that you would like to change the course of your treatment and are prepared to do so. www.xanaxinfo.com/ Always, AD

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What dose of the XR would give you the constant release in relation to the .12 I am taking now? How long does it last?

Ronnie, I sympathize with your dilemma because I also have a thyroid problem that has made my anxiety unmanageable.  It built up for years, but got to the point where I had a four month long panic attack during a hyper swing (I have Hashimoto’s). .12 twice a day is a really small dose.  The equivalent Xanax XR would be a .25 pill once, in the morning.  I now take it myself, having switched from the regular about 6 months ago.  I really like it.  No interdose anxiety and it lasts all day.  I don’t wake up anxious, either.  Plus, I don’t forget to take my pills during the day because it’s a once a day thing. I also struggled with the whole "to take meds or not to take meds" issue. The thyroid disease awareness advocates would have you believe that the anxiety will disappear if you can just get proper treatment for your thyroid.  I don’t buy it.  Some people just have anxiety (even pre-thyroid issues) and fiddling with thyroid meds, no-carb diets, supplements, etc. is not going to take care of that for everyone.  We are all different. Give the XR a try.  As always, this is all IMHO and YMMV.  I hope you find relief very soon. Dawn

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Sounds like me this morning.  I’m not medicated and the anxiety is pretty new to me.  Seems like it has been tripped by a heart attack this   Summer to go a long with fear of job loss, and all sorts of other stuff. What I have found that works pretty well is to bury myself in my work.      Keep working so hard I don’t have time to to let my mind be flooded with the "bad thoughts" that start the anxiety. But today sucked.  It just started building up, almost for no reason at all.  Like I was going to barf. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi Ronnie  Yes I have had that ill feeling many times. I do have panic and anxiety attacks but this feeling is different. when I get this I feel very fatigued and sick to my stomach. Its mostly in the morning when I get up and before I take my xanax. Once I take the half pill it goes away. Is this the feeling you have also. I dont get it every day. Just every now and then. I also have had the thyroid tests done and all the bloodwork,EKG,echo, stress echo and every other test you can imagine and they were all normal. I take 1/2 of a .25 of xanax every day. If my anxiety gets really bad or I am having a setback sometimes I take another half . If the xanax makes you feel normal and lets you be able to enjoy life without feeling anxious and sick all the time then I would take it. Thats what I do anymore. I used to fight taking it when I first started on it but its so nice to be able to enjoy life that I dont even worry anymore. I just take it. If you are having rebound anxiety on the amount that you are taking you might ask your doctor about xanax XR. I have never tried it but I have seen a few posts on here from people that do take it and they say it works really well at stopping the rebound anxiety. It might be worth talking to your doctor about it. I do hope you start feeling better soon. Eight years is a long time to put up with  daily anxiety. I would say you have been very patient. Deb Well after spending $600 of my own money on blood test (I only have major medical) and having a complete thyroid panel come back normal a CBC come back normal a cortisol test come back normal and the only thing I am waiting on is my testosterone to come back I am fine. I even had my prostate checked which was normal. I have posted on here before. I came off a small ammount of Xanax .25 twice a day for a couple of months just to see waht was going on. I did have Grave’s disease and had RAI 8 years ago and I am on Armour thyroid replacement which is the only thing that makes me feel half way normal. I tried 6 docs while on synthroid for the first 4 years and even had the best endocrine doc in town tell me to move to a warmer climate before I got fad up and went on armour through a family doc. and mythyroid is always normal. My problem is as long as I can remeber I have had anxiety all day long. Even before my thyroid. It has gotten worse with age (now 37) and with the thyroid replacement speeding me up but it is the only type thyroid med I can take. I have jumped through all the hoops for 8 years now. I have tried the prozacs and paxils which all just make me feel blah. As I have said before, the only thing that turns me around and makes life worth living is xanax. I can take half a .25 (equal to .12)  and feel like a normal person for about 5 hours. I then feel the anxiety come back. I found if I take a full .25 the rebound anxiety after 5 hours is harder to overcome. I am going to take the .12 at 1 pm and maybe 6 pm (depending on how I am feeling and call it life. I have been so patient through all this crap for 8 years and done the right thing and made sure the xanax was not acting as a bandaid for another underlying problem but I think that I really need this stuff to survive and live a happy life due to my condition. I really do not have panic attacks just ill all day and cannnot get un ill. The only other thing that would work was a couple of beers at night. Does anyone else her have just a feeling of being ill all day without the panic attacks so to speak. I

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I have been so patient through all this crap for 8 years and done the right thing and made sure the xanax was not acting as a bandaid for another underlying problem but I think that I really need this stuff to survive and live a happy life due to my condition

Hello Ronnie, You know yourself best, so if this med is the only thing that works for you…so be it.  If you find you need to take multiple doses…they just came out with xanax xr, it is time released and lasts much longer, might want to try that as you won’t have to take more than one pill Hope you find relief Always, AD

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Well after spending $600 of my own money on blood test (I only have major medical) and having a complete thyroid panel come back normal a CBC come back normal a cortisol test come back normal and the only thing I am waiting on is my testosterone to come back I am fine. I even had my prostate checked which was normal. I have posted on here before. I came off a small ammount of Xanax .25 twice a day for a couple of months just to see waht was going on. I did have Grave’s disease and had RAI 8 years ago and I am on Armour thyroid replacement which is the only thing that makes me feel half way normal. I tried 6 docs while on synthroid for the first 4 years and even had the best endocrine doc in town tell me to move to a warmer climate before I got fad up and went on armour through a family doc. and mythyroid is always normal. My problem is as long as I can remeber I have had anxiety all day long. Even before my thyroid. It has gotten worse with age (now 37) and with the thyroid replacement speeding me up but it is the only type thyroid med I can take. I have jumped through all the hoops for 8 years now. I have tried the prozacs and paxils which all just make me feel blah. As I have said before, the only thing that turns me around and makes life worth living is xanax. I can take half a .25 (equal to .12)  and feel like a normal person for about 5 hours. I then feel the anxiety come back. I found if I take a full .25 the rebound anxiety after 5 hours is harder to overcome. I am going to take the .12 at 1 pm and maybe 6 pm (depending on how I am feeling and call it life. I have been so patient through all this crap for 8 years and done the right thing and made sure the xanax was not acting as a bandaid for another underlying problem but I think that I really need this stuff to survive and live a happy life due to my condition. I really do not have panic attacks just ill all day and cannnot get un ill. The only other thing that would work was a couple of beers at night. Does anyone else her have just a feeling of being ill all day without the panic attacks so to speak. I

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